About 1 ago, my husband & I had some problems wherewe were living and had to move into my mother in law's house. We have 3 younger kids & the house is quite crowded. It is a rental & when we moved, she said that we would only have to pay the overage on the bills as we were saving to buy/rent somewhere else. She is on a commission based job and has not made a sale since Feb. After the 3rd month, we started paying all the bills except the rent as she was not bringing home $. For the past 3 months, we started paying rent too. We buy all the food & I do all the cooking. She cleans. My problem- she is maxed on her credit cards, can't pay any bills, buy food for house, etc. But, she recently had a birthday & was given a few hundred dollars. Her son is coming into town with his family & we are all going to Disneyland together. My mother in law is going to use what little she has to go too. I am frustrated as I think she should save the $ or help w/bills. Am I being unreasonable?
2006-10-10 04:55:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Start looking for your own place. She'll learn soon enough that she has to take care of herself. Don't feel obligated to her, either. The way I see it, you guys are even.
Tell your husband you just want a place of your own so your family can be free to be itself. Use that as your reason to leave. Don't say it's because of your mother-in-law.
2006-10-10 05:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was gracious enough to let your family move in when you were having issues. Why can't you be gracious to her?
She's been having a tough time. There is no indication by you that she is not trying to get out of the financial slump that she is in. Certainly she should go to Disneyland and enjoy being with her family. Why do you want to deny her that small pleasure?
I do believe that your family needs to move out though to keep the peace as well as establish financial independence from her issues. See if her son is willing to help her out for a while.
2006-10-10 05:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..But saying something to your husband might create some problems. JUst try to come up with a compromise. Maybe find a new place in 3 months time?
2006-10-10 05:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you're not.... though the best remedy to your problem is to live alone with your family..try your best to buy or rent somewhere else as soon as possible. it is not always advisable to be living with other family/ies under one roof. please convince your husband to find a home of your own...before friction or misunderstanding sets in....
god bless you...
2006-10-10 05:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by jadfritz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that she go money she just not helping she may feel like since yall started then why do anythng now
2006-10-10 05:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋