I have been trying for a long time....?

Question

I want to get pregnant but for some reason it just wont happen. Are there any mothers out there that can help me???

Answer 1

Betty, to get pregnant you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.

After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.

After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.

Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.

Answer 2

First off I have to strongly disagree with Chel. My Ob/gyn has a higher pregnancy success rate than ALL fertility specialists around my town and we have some of the best here in Louisville. Our Louisville's Women Pavillion has been ranked in the top 5 in the states. An Ob/gyn has all the skills and means necessary to help a woman achieve pregnancy. I lucked out with my doctor. He only takes 3 new patients a year and they must be special cases. He calls me every week just to see how I'm feeling and to find out if anything new is happening with me or if I have any new questions. Now how many doctors do you know that do that? I was in his office a couple of weeks ago and there was a 50 year old woman there that had just found out she was pregnant for the first time! I have been to many fertility specialists over the years and I have NEVER come across one as caring and interested in my well being as my Ob/gyn. I was told by the specialists that I would never be able to have children. I now have high hopes because my doctor assures me that we can achieve pregnancy and will do so probably within the next 6 months.
As for your question, we have been trying for many years and I pretty much have given up. I found out that I have PCOS and am now being treated with Metformin. I have never had regular periods in my life ( 1 - 4 years apart). Now my periods are 28 days like clockwork and I'M OVULATING!!! Just hang in there sweetie. I have gotten a lot of advice over the years (just relax, have sex everyday, dont worry it will happen, put a pillow under your hips, etc.....) and when you are trying to conceive nothing helps. No offense but especially advice from people who already have children and have gotten pregnant without trying.
I try not to give advice that I know won't help. So, my only advice is find a doctor that you feel comfortable with and one that knows what he's doing and don't give up. I am 39 years young and trying for 1st. Good Luck to you and Baby Dust to all TTC!

Answer 3

Have you tried seeing a dr, they can be alot of help after my first son was born my husband and I couldnt get pregnant no matter what we tried, so we went and saw a dr he helped us out alot 2 weeks later I was pregnant. Also buyt kits from walmart or some where to help you know when you ovlateing they work great thats what the dr gave us and it worked for us now we have 3 boys. Good luck I hope something works for you.....

Answer 4

I completely agree with Tammybaby. Although my OBGYN doesn't call me weekly to see how I'm doing, he is very knowledgeable and is continually updating his education and learning about the latest research in fertility options. I live in a large metropolitan area and have access to many specialists, but I am very comfortable with my OBGYN and trust him completely. I was able to conceive my daughter under his care. Although it took 13 months, I don't think I would've conceived any quicker with a fertility specialist. I am currently in my 6th month ttc again.
I suggest finding a doctor that you feel comfortable with, whether it be an OBGYN or fertility specialist. Discuss medical histories - both you and your partner, get an exam done and have some routine blood work done. Make sure to write down any and all questions before your appointment. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

If you have been trying unsuccessfully for one year, go see a fertility specialist. DO NOT use your OB/GYN for this. They have limited experience and knowlege in infertility although they dabble with it. Go to a fertility clinic. You will get right down to the bottom of what the problem is rather than wasting another year, more $ and stress. Secondly, if intervention is needed to assist with pregnancy, you are already at the right place to get to your goal - A BABY! Hope this helps. I learned the hard way.

Answer 6

I agree with Chel.

I have been trying to conceive for over three years now. I recommend to all people trying for over a year to see a Fertility Specialist rather than your Ob-Gyn. Your Ob-Gyn will try various medications and treatments without testing for any problems. When I first starting trying my Ob-Gyn put me on Clomid for three cycles with no success before I demanded he refer me to a Fertility Specialist. After one visit with my new doctor, he informed me that the medication that my Ob-Gyn had me on had actually regressed my treatment by several months.

Don't hestiate to see a Specialist. It will save you money in the long run.

Answer 7

Both you and your husband should get tested, he should get tested to see if all his sperm counts are okay, you should get tested to make sure your tubes are open, see if you have any disorderes like PCOS, Endometrosis, annovulatory cycles, etc.