Okay for a few months our relationship did get boring and our sexlife was zero for a couple months, but that was all her. I treated her like a queen but we had some problems that could have easily been resolved. She left one weekend with her family and came back to me COLD. She denies she cheated on me but I know for certain she did. I work with this guy also so it makes all the worst plus this guy is married and is seriously an ignorant not as attractive guy as me. So she leaves me for a guy who can only provide her with a trailer and goverment cheese - That confuses me but she is easily influenced but her family and they pushed her away from for this guy cause he is friends with her brother in law. I'm hurt and it sucks because I was going to marry her, we have lived together for 2 1/2 years so you know there is a history there. I want to settle the score but should I. I'm afraid if I fight him I will seriously hurt this guy but I am also afraid if I don't do it now it will just buil
2006-10-10 04:50:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well for goodness sakes! No!!!!!! He did you a favor. She will be cheating on him before long. She's called a player. Both sexes have these type of people. And fighting is certainly not the answer. So I say boil for a short time, then let it go, so you can free yourself up to meet someone else and fall in love again,and trust me you will find someone else............. I understand your 2 1/2 year's together, you can still build up a history with another girl who will be appreciative of you.
And Anthony, please do not fight this guy, you don't know what might happen. You could seriously hurt him or yourself, and one or the other of you could end up doing time. Just let her go ........ you're better then the both of them.
Hugs
Texas girl
2006-10-10 05:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your revenge, if any, should be with her not the other guy. But really, revenge is childish. Do not "settle" the score.
If she is totally out of the relationship and wants no contact with you, there really is nothing you can do. If she will at least talk to you then perhaps you could ask her how your relationship was unsatisfactory and you would like to change it if possible.
Since the sex life was 0 for a few months, that is most likely when she started sleeping or at least lusting about the other man.
You could always contact the other man's wife. You could tell the wife to open her eyes to his ways because he has a private life she doesn't know about. You can do this without truly seeking revenge but in trying to alert the innocent trusting wife.
2006-10-10 04:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Errrm no it is not worth getting into a fight with this guy. Chances are you will be arrested for assault and then you will have to go through all the court dates and what not and probably be put on probabation or worse jail and then probation. It does not seem hardly worth it.
It takes two to tango so it is not entirely the guys fault she was an equal party to this affair. Yes you were together for a couple plus years but in the big scheme of things that is really not a very long time. You need to try hard as you can to mark this down to one of the not so good times in your life and move on. Noone is worth getting yourself into all kinds of trouble. Good luck to you and I hope you feel better soon.
2006-10-10 05:00:02 · answer #3 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look here bro. Fighting is not the answer. If you were as good to her as you said you were then it will all come back to kick her in the $$$. It takes two people to get involved. He is not the only one here that did wrong. She cheated on you right? If she did you dont need her. She will only do it again. I know you must be hurt but trust me, Life goes on and in my case it was much better. There is someone out there that deserves what you can offer then. Not someone that will take you for granted. Its hard but move on. Dont lower yourself to there level. Good luck
2006-10-10 04:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a few questions to ask yourself, Will it make her love you again? is he worth going to jail over? Even if she does come back will she leave again if I lose my job because I assaulted someone and went to jail?
I had to ask myself these questions years ago when I was just 21, I saw the guy and the life they had (not much of one) and decided they deserved each other and moved on. It worked out fine for me but this is a decision you have to make, I hope this helps.
2006-10-10 05:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by talllostangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, she is obviously over you. She was just looking for a way out. If you touch the guy you will look like a desperate loser trying to win back her love. It won't work and you will most likely wind up in jail. Take the high road.
2006-10-10 04:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Moosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away. Fighting with him will do no good. When his wife finds out she'll take care of it and probably in a much better way than you can. As far as your cheating girlfriend, why stick around with her? She's cold, boring and a liar, you can do much better!
2006-10-10 04:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just walk away. If she felt the same for you she would not have cheated. You will be the better person for letting the matter drop and moving on.
2006-10-10 04:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say just move on but it is not that easy ... i am sure it will hurt plenty before it gets better.
As for the guy, forget him . It was her choice. Dont hate her either only you will hurt yourself. Let go, keep your self occupied and think that someone better will come. Really there is one girl for you out there that you will not meet if you dont move on.
2006-10-10 04:57:37 · answer #10 · answered by Aspettami28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋