My friend is becoming more popular and I'm happy about that its just that with that populatity she keeps pushing me aside like I dont exist.I will talk to her when others are around and she dosent even listen to me, But when we are alone she acts like I'm her best friend again. We've been best friends for about 3-4 years, and I dont know what to do. I dont want to end our friendship and I dont want to hurt her either by saying something mean. But i'm getting tired of it! HELP!
2006-10-10 04:47:03 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It Seams Like Your Friend Wants the Best Of Both Worlds.A True Friend That She Don't Want Anyone Else To Know About, Maybe it's Because She Is Afraid that her Other friends Won't Think Your Cool Enough, Or Maybe She Is Afraid That They Will Like You A Whole Lot Better Than Her. Either Way You Should Talk To Her And Tell Your So called Friend How You Feel. It's Not Unusually For Friends To Have Other Friends Away From Each Other, But Not If It's Hurting The Other. If She Is A True Friend She Will Still Have You A Her Friend. Don't Loose Sleep Over It, Talk To Her.
2006-10-10 05:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Cas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you are being used and that she is a shallow selfish person. You are good enough when she isn't surrounded by her fan club, but not when she is. You don't want to hurt her; what about you? She's hurting you every time she rejects you. Think about yourself, she's thinking of herself.
I would take a good long look at why you really want to be friends with her. Are you shy and bask in her popularity, maybe you don't have many other friends. I'm not trying to hurt you, but you need to search your feelings. If it turns out that you still want to be friends then you need to confront her with what she is doing. If she really cares she will change the way she treats you, if not then its time to move on and find another friend. True friends don't hurt friends.
2006-10-10 06:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Country Hick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Popularity is superficial and short term and dependent on personal possessions. It always never lasts past the summer of graduation.
Friendship is lasting, forgiving, and a place where you and your friend can be yourselves.
But if your girlfriend leaves you to be with the "in" crowd then just maybe she was never really your friend.
2006-10-10 05:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by rsuavez66 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent all of my teens with a best friend who was far more popular than me. As we got older i met a wonderful man, married and had 2 beautiful kids. She spent the whole of her 30's being envious of me.It hurts at the time but i can assure you your time will come..have faith..god bless.
2006-10-10 05:12:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to put a pin in her blown up head. yes it will hurt her feelings but you have to tell her how you feel. if she really is your friend then she'll make an effort to change and you'll both get over this. if not, then she might have been just using you.
2006-10-10 04:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋