I have been bi for about 4 years of my life. Now I'm 19 and I've been around with males and females. Very few people even knew that I was bi. Last week I had sex with a girl and didn't even enjoy it. I like men a lot more. I don't want to keep it a secret anymore and I want to tell my friends. But typically I'm afraid and I don't want to lose any of them. Should I keep it in the closet or what should I do??
Thanks
2006-10-10 04:43:27 · 18 answers · asked by likingitbigg 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Seems to me that you are not so sure what you are. You are still sleeping with girls, but don't like it. Don't force yourself into a catagorie darling. If you bi this week, gay next week, it's your business. You never know what may happen. I thought I was a lesbian for a long time because my long term boyfriend was not doing it for me. But after we broke it off, I met this guy that could melt me with one kiss. I never thought that would happen again.
Tell you friends whatever. If they know your bi, surely they will be cool with you being gay. I mean, I know that I go through months where I just fancy girls and other times when I just fancy guys. I suggest you tell them that you are just into guys at the moment, see how they react and go from there.
2006-10-10 06:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Two Spirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't HAVE to tell them... I understand you wanting to tell people, but do they know that you are bi? If not they may see it as a major shock. I suggest dropping hints... Or if you want just shout it out, but make sure that is what you really want... If you do still have some feelings for women, it may be difficult to turn back without strange looks from your friends. I'd say think about it and hold off until you are completely sure!
2006-10-10 05:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think about every potential outcome in order to address the issues from all directions. Im bisexual, i dont think that i would ever really go bat entirely for the womens team but I understand the debacle. I am in several clubs that help people to 'come out' and one method is to sit one of yr closest relatives down and ease the big news on them. Not all at once by making the big blurt IM GAY! But to just sit back and gradually pose the hypothetical way although you know that it wioll be based on fact. Watch the reaction and act accordingly, this way if he or she responds in a different way, you can at least have put it out there for them to ponder...another method, do like my friend did say that you are gay and thenm run run yr sweet butt off into the sun. lol
2006-10-10 05:07:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, since you were already bi, then being gay shouldn't be that much bigger of a deal then being bi. Or if your really nervous then you could just not mention it to them umtil you feel ready and just hook up with guys, if a girl likes you just make some excuses like you don't wanna be in a relationship. and remeber *if they're true friends it won't matter!* :-P
2006-10-10 04:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Emma H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does it have to be a big announcement to your friends? "Coming out" parties have always annoyed me. It's really nobody's business except the people you have sex with. Just relax about your friends. Date your guys and act like there's nothing wrong with it or unusual about it - because there isn't - and you'll find that most people respect that. The ones who don't have their own issues. Just ask "beepit."
2006-10-10 04:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I'm sure everyone knows you're more into guys than chicks. Titles mean nothing..you were gay from the start.
I can almost bet that you were born with high heels on your feet and curlers in your hair.
2006-10-10 09:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story sound like mine. I just told the friends that I knew wouldn't care and told them that I would prefer that it if they didn't broadcast it. I came out as Bi to them, but they know that I prefer guys most of the time.
2006-10-10 09:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say Go ahead and tell 'em. The ones who don't stay your friends, weren't really your friends to begin with, so you won't be losing much. Good luck!
2006-10-10 04:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Angel of Fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what is right for you. Who cares what other people think? IN the end you are the one who has to be happy. I am sure they will understand.
2006-10-10 05:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are your true friends, it shouldn't matter to them whether you are straight or gay. Real friends will stick around no matter what the circumstances.
2006-10-10 04:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋