I have been living with my boyfriend for the last year and a half. It wasn't a "planned out thing" I needed a place to go at the time, and it just happened that way. The time has come ,and I am moving into my own place and he got a great offer on buying a condo. We both have teen kids and right now Brandon does not want to live with my kids. This move has been very painfull for me. Brandon knows, as I have shared my feelings about that. We both have responsibilities to our children. We were out at lunch one day with his 2 children and out of the blue Brandon was talking to his daughter and said to her, "yeah, I am moving out in a week and a half." Yes, I knew the time was coming, but there wasn't a date on it and apparently he found out when his moving time was earlier that day and didn't even find it important enough to let me know. He wasn't addressing me at all when he said this. I just wanted to cry, but it wasn't the time to act that way in front of his kids.
2006-10-10 04:34:56 · 13 answers · asked by crazartgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
notthe best time but according to you ...you both are looking out for your own children.So if you knew it was coming and you knew he was looking for the place , then why are you so upset that he is moving ?
True he couldhave told you a better way but also sounds like he picked that time to say it so there would not be any fights or argueing over it.
Stop andthink ... are you both in this relationship or are you both looking for a way to move on and not deal with the break up ?
Sounds ot me you both are suing your children as an excuse to stop the relationship , stop beating around the bush and decide if this relationship is what you both want or both of you grow up and face the facts its over .
2006-10-10 04:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Glenn T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your question is phrased in a very interesting way. sounds like you and brandon have a yes-probably-iffy, not a very solid base of a relationship...like u guys dig each other but not quite...you both are not that sure...so you guys test each other all the time ...one of you will offer the other a *behavior*- the responding one gets mad cuz he/she doesn't know how to counter and is flapping around like an idiot .
anyway this relationship is too vague. the other side is that a guy is a guy is a guy. he may really have just found out he's moving in a week and if his kid isn't more important than you than there is something wrong w/ him anyway. i mean, it would have been nicer if his look had included you,too.
but the question, i think, here is you got hurt. here are my suggestions
1. forget about it. move on. if this slight on you is a symptom of the bigger picture on your relationship then
2. for heaven sakes, tell him in a private moment. i'll warn you, though, he's going to look at you as a picking at threads and he'll think do i really want to spend my life w/ somebody that whines like this. I believe the trickier part of anybody's complaint sayz more about them than the other guy. i'm sorry if this hurts, but develop your sense of self better so people respond to you w. the kind of respect you would like to have.
3. mostly what's your response saying to you about how you feel about yourself and about this relationship.
good luck.
2006-10-10 11:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by carolcat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention JERK when you were describing him. He is over your relationship. It just isn't there for him. He can't wait to move on.
The circumstances you moved in under were not good. It probably would not have happened at all if you hadn't needed somewhere to live. BUT he did give you and your kids a temporary home.
Now it is time for both of you to move on with your own life. Take care of your kids and settle in your new place. I would get busy with things that don't involve him. I wouldn't see him as in dating either. You will only hear from him if he needs sex in the future.
Good Luck and don't give in to him.....There are better men out there.
2006-10-10 11:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, all of the above. Move on sweetie. No one deserves to be treated like this. Oh, and add disrespectful, cowardly (using the child was really low) immature - ah, the list goes on!
2006-10-10 11:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by risa131313 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's already moved on and his heart & mind are out of your relationship. A bit cold-hearted and tactless, but at least you have no doubt where the relationship stands!
2006-10-10 11:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he told u ALREADY what he wants u just DONT WANT 2 LISTEN ! thats the problem he has expressed 2 u that he feels the children are grown and they should be on there own, so 2 answer ur? rude ,inconsiderate,cold hearted,un-tactful and deaf you are guilty of all of the above, he told u what he wanted!
2006-10-10 11:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by q45dip 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would have been hurt, but I suppose that's what he was aiming for. Rocketman might have also made a good point. What he did was very tacky. He could have told you face to face like a mature, responsible ADULT would have done.
2006-10-10 11:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since you moving in with your boyfriend wasn't a "planned out thing", no i just think he was tackless. you need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. don't let this little bump mess up your relationship.
2006-10-10 11:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenixx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say it was all of the above. Maybe, it's time to move out and move on.
2006-10-10 11:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by Drummer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are better off without him, if he can't accept your kids. Keep looking, you will find that someone special.
2006-10-10 11:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋