how do I let her know we have problems and it takes two to fix it?

Question

What would be a good way to let her know without fighting that we need to fix our problems and it takes two I cant do it myself.

Answer 1

I would think you should sit down and let her know just how much you love her and see if she can help figure it out...Be nice and dont push her..you may need other help....SAM

Answer 2

Communication is of the essence but in order to begin a solution SHE has to realize that there is a problem!

Women usually try to talk things out as soon as they occur, I am surprised she hasn't taken the first step towards a solution. Nonetheless, something has to be done! Wait for her to be in the most relaxed state possible. Sit down with her and a piece of paper and write down the pro and cons of your relationship. Tie the problem into one of the cons on your list and from there try to come to a half way point and come up with a viable solution. Once agreed upon you must follow up and make sure you stick to the resolution.

Be as honest with your appreciation of the problem but be assertive in defending your cause. There is no reason why you both can't come to a favorable point of mediation.

If she has any true interest in reaching a solution you should not last long in the discord you are experiencing now

I wish you the best!

Answer 3

You have to tell her, get your thouhts in order, write them down if you need to. Sit her down and just tell her how you feel, let her know that you are not accusing or blaming anyone but that it is something you have to say. If she is one that argues with you a lot be prepared for it, but try very hard not to argue back, that makes things worse. Try to remain calm and talk to her like you do your friends, let her know that you want to try and fix it, and that you are willing to do what is needed and most of all get some counseling help. There are going to be some things that will come up that you will need someone else outside the marriage to help with. Believe me if my husband had the nerve to do what you want to, I would not be by myself right now. Don't wait to long, if she really loves you she will want to try too.

Answer 4

Depends on the depth and breadth of the problem. Do you communicate easily? Is she one who will discuss things openly with you? Try an old fashioned seduction...a bottle of wine, a gentle kiss and deliver your message with love. Might as well try the gentle approach first. If she doesn't get it, sit her down, look her in the eye and give it to her directly and mince no words.

Answer 5

Make her dinner. After you eat tell her that you need to talk to her about your relationship. Tell her that you love her and want to be with her forever. Then tell her. (You must both compromise to get it solved. Relationships are mutual. Both give up some to get more.) If she does not respect that and wants to fight I say forget her, unless you are married. If you are then keep trying and it will come together. lol to you for trying to communicate with her as so many don't. I am impressed........!

Answer 6

Try and talk to her and let her know that you do not want to fight. Let her know that you are trying to solve your problems, but you have to have help. Try talking it over a romantic dinner.

Answer 7

il give you three words that need no explaining,,,'im not happy' she cant argue the fact,she cant say you are wrong and if she wants to help the relationship she has to acknowledge something has to be done,,between you,,either that or she really isnt bothered whether or not your relationship is rocky.

Answer 8

Let me know if you figure this one out......I can't solve my own problems.

Answer 9

Do not chase this too long, look outside the marriage and see if you can spice it up