I am a happily married woman with one child. Sometimes I want to have another child and other times i do not. Birth controll makes me ill and i have had many problems with all that i have taken. Condoms just well don't feel good or last.I am at a loss. I do not know what to do.Hubby doesnt care either way. But i am not sure what i want. What if i have regrets? I would like input from other woman who have had this done,and has either/or regretted it and had it reversed or not regretted it. Thanks a bunch..
2006-10-10 04:22:30 · 7 answers · asked by tammy m 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
If you have to ask yourself am I ready to have a tubal, then you are not ready. This surgery is a life changing event, don't count on being able to reverse it, if you change your mind. I thought I was ready, had it done and spent years wishing I hadn't. As I got older, I realized the relief of not taking a chance of getting pregnant but it took years for me to get to that point. Since you only have one child, I would think twice before getting it done.
2006-10-10 04:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by kat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know HOW you KNOW you're ready for this, it depends on how you feel about having more children. If you are undecided, you should probably wait to have this done though. There are a lot of things to consider: your age, your child's age, your financial situation, along with a myriad of others. You really need to discuss what your options are with your doctor before deciding you want the tubal ligation though. If I'm not mistaken, there are different ways of doing the tubal, where it doesn't have to be permanent.
I have personally had a tubal and I have no regrets. I have 2 children, 14 and 2, I had the tubal right when I had my 2 year old because I was 31 at that time and I had several reasons for not wanting to have more children. So it just fit for us, but that's us.
This has to be a choice you and your hubby make, but if you're undecided, you probably shouldn't have the tubal just yet. There are other birth control options available. Best wishes, I know it has to be a hard decision.
2006-10-10 05:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by hunniebabie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain!I am 29 years old with 2 daughters and I just had my Tubal Ligation done on friday(10/6)It was a year and a half decision,its not to be taken lightly!!Today when I dropped my youngest off at the babysitters I got a litttle sad b/c she aslo watches a 4month old.But I tell myself if my husband and I want our girls to have a very good life we made the right choice.We bought our home last year with the family we already have-if we had added -two would have to share a room.i think no matter what I'm always going to want the baby fix-so I'm prayer that my sister gives me a niece or nephew soon.Please do not take advise from anyone but yourself and your husband.The two of you can only make the right choice!!!Best of Luck
2006-10-10 06:36:26 · answer #3 · answered by Angela b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really know if you are ready for a tubal ligation. It is a personal decision. I had it done and I do not regret it at all. Certain factors such as career, finances, etc. and could I really care for more than the 2 kids I do have helped me come to the decision You and hubby need to sit down and weigh out your options then decide whats best for you both.
2006-10-10 04:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Nuthouse 4456 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question to answer. I had it done after my second child. I only wanted 2 and I had the surgery immediately after the second child was born. I was happy with my decision until a few months later we lost our second daughter to SIDS and now I regret having the surgery because it is too expensive to have a reversal and still not have a really good chance to conceive. You just need to do what feels right to you, but remember, what feels right at this moment may not work for you later.
2006-10-10 04:39:39 · answer #5 · answered by lcombsfan_00 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I'm in the same process as you, but I have two kids. I'm checking into the Mirena IUD. Really, it's an IUC, as it contains hormones that will lighten cramping and bleeding instead of making it worse, which a regular IUD will do. These can stay in for up to 5 years, or be removed if you choose to try to conceive again. It sounds like a better solution if we're not completely sure what to do.
2006-10-10 04:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Cookie momster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big decision. Weigh your options. I had a vasectomy at 27, never regretted it.
2006-10-10 04:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Ralph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋