He has always expressed how much he wants to marry me, I have been engaged to him several times & almost made it down the aisle once, but, he has had a drug problem & been in jail twice over the course of our relationship. I have tried to move on several times over the yrs, but we always get back 2gether. We have a 13 yr old daughter. For 3 yrs he has been stable, good job, home, etc... but with his new independent life he was taking me for granted. Just recently, I thought I was pregnant & it opened both of our eyes to thinking about our future 2gether. Now he wants to get married and move in with me & be a family. I know he is the one for me, I love this man unconditionally. I have always been afraid of marriage because of my parents relationship (very cold). But my question is after 15 yrs of hoping this man would grow up, my wish has come true.I know I am going to be with him for another 15 yrs so we should get married right?or should I just let him move in? I am so confused
2006-10-10 04:04:50 · 10 answers · asked by sweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should marry him. He has shown you that he does Love you and your daughter very much. He has been making things better in his life now. you had shared the bad times with him so you should also share the good times as well. it not only seems like you love him unconditionally, it also seems that his love for you is unconditional as well. You should not deprive your self from having a loving marriage just because your parents marriage was cold. Everyone is different.
Good Luck!
2006-10-10 04:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No One can tell you what to do withj your life,that is something that is something that you need to do for your self. You have to be ready for the commitment of marriage before you can actually make it down the aisle to get the certficate,so you might want to have him to move in with you and see how it goes before you actually try to go down the aisle once more.Just because you know that you are going to be together does not mean that you have to actually be married to have a wonderful relationship. it does sound like you love each other very much,and whether or not you do get married,you already are a family because you already share a child together and that is a bigger committment to one another than a marriage certificate ever could be. because of the child you will forever be connected. Best of luck,and happy wishes for you in the future while you make your decision.
2006-10-10 04:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by runt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think but what is said in your question you have answered your own question. You say that you love him uncoditionally and you are sure that you guys will be together for another 15 yrs. it's obvious that you guys need to tie the know. moving in together does nothing. Getting married proves your love for each other ans symbolizes and shows that you guys promise to be together forever. living together proves nothing. you already have a ready made family seal with the marriage vow. Just make sure that this is what you both want. and not because it is convenient. if it is true love don't let it pass you.
2006-10-10 04:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by mdbdyot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people get married before the kids. You say you have a daughter together? I say after 15 years he is who he is if you like him marry him
2006-10-10 04:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you fro following the same old expert suggestion on mixing families. i'm a single mom, went by co-parenting training and what you're doing is A+ the thank you to do it. by making use of waiting till they are adults/in college and permitting them to have their Dad is so commendable and shows they arrive first. After doing each and every thing you're doing, i don't understand what you ought to probably do to bond with this female different than enable her experience the way she needs to experience. you are able to not tension it. If she needs lots of on my own time and area along with her Dad, enable her have it. which would be your present to her. even whilst she is 30...it could in no way circulate away. yet there are worse dynamics happening in families. it is not thoroughly unmanageable. Be your self. shop doing what you're doing. She is who she is and that i think of she would be ready to appreciate you extra for accepting it, not forcing something and leaving her on my own to recommendations-set you whilst she is waiting.
2016-10-19 03:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preferably to get married.
2006-10-10 04:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would just live with him for a while and make sure this is what you want and if he is going to act right. You will know when your ready.
2006-10-10 04:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With 3 years sobriety, I'd be willing to do it, if it was me.
2006-10-10 04:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck!
2006-10-10 04:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Blk Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry him you love him
2006-10-10 04:07:23 · answer #10 · answered by luby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋