i might be pregnant,i haven't taken the test yet but if i do and it comes back positive how do i tell my mom?

Question

i'm 18 about to be 19 in february..i just started college and my mother has no idea (well she might but hasn't said anything to me about it) that i'm not a virgin, and i don't know how i could tell her without her being upset or disappointed at me

Answer 1

You must come to terms that if you tell her she will be upset and possibly disappointed-there's no getting around that. You do have choices if the test is positive and you won't need your mother's permission. If your beliefs dictate that you have to have the baby, then you must gather all your strength, tell her, wait for the storm and weather it out. When all the yelling and questions are over, she is still your mother, she loves you and she will help you.

Answer 2

First be positive you are pregnant. That is how old I was when I first got pregnant I was 18 and turned 19 in Feb. 4 months before I had my son but I took three first response test before I told her they all said yes, you should probably tell your mom first it might be easier than telling both at the same time I told my mom through a card I put in her car on her steering wheel while she was working I had her spare keys, I told her I loved her no matter what and I was sorry if I had disappointed her, I just had to wait the rest of the day until she got off work to see it and stayed in my room the whole day, she was disappointed and crying but she told my dad he was the mean one, cause I was also going to college I went up until my last month, just tell them what your plans are and tell the dad to make sure he is going to help support you and the baby, the first thing my dad said was, what am I going to do when my boyfriend leaves my butt, but I had already told him a month prior so he was already out working a couple of jobs to get us a apartment for after I had the baby, so I had no problem there. Good luck e-mail me if you need to talk.

Answer 3

They're will be no easy way of telling her, but you are almost 19 which constitutes and adult and all the responsibilities of one to. I got pregnant at 19 and I had to tell my Mom too. I just told her that I was pregnant and she was in denial for a while, but by the time my belly showed htere was nothing she could do. Take hte test, find out and then tell your Mom. But at least you'll know before you worry her with you may be or may not be.

Answer 4

There will no easy way of breaking this to her, but maybe you should wait a little wahile, the first three months are very risky and it is when the possibilities of a misscarriage are at it's highest. However your mom will know long before your three months are up. Most mother;s know a lot more about their kids then what they say, chances your mom knows youa re having sex are very high too. She will be disappointed at first but she will get over it especially when the baby arrives.

Answer 5

Do what I did get the test give it to her and walk out the house for a couple of hours. At 32 I'm still scared to tell my mom if I were pregnant

Answer 6

I grew up in a religious home and at 19 i was unmarried and had gotten pregnant I knew my mother was gonna go postal and god forbid my boyfriends parents (who's father is a preacher) find out god help us all not to mention if they found out that I had conceived there grandchild in there house. anyway my mom took me to the Dr. and I did the pregnancy test they said it would be about 20 min.till they ran the test my mom drove me home told me she was gonna go out to eat and call her if I needed anything I called her at the restaurant said mom I know your gonna Be disappointed in me but I got the results I'm pregnant and I started crying she handled it better then I thought she would she said its a little to late for tears honey your gonna be a mommy soon. Ill Be right over she went with me to tell My boyfriend and his family His oldest sister who was alot smarter then she looked says your crying you just found out your pregnant she ran in and told her mom and dad for me and they said oh my good god in heaven. does our son know? I said not yet about that time he pulled up in the drive and everyone looked funny and he asked who died I told him honey were pregnant he turned about 3 shades of white jumped out of the car and swung me around and we were married 5 months later. if you are pregnant set your family down and tell them chances are they wont take it as hard as you think.

Answer 7

Just striaght up tell her be like mom i been having sex and im pregnant. Simple and straight to the point .
-Felicia-

Answer 8

If you want to tell her without "telling" her, leave the positive test in a conspicuous place. She'll know.

Answer 9

betrayal is the best way to seal a already fragile relationship between parent and child.


just tell her...