then he adds..i love u and im not like that.........what do u make of that confusing answer?
2006-10-10 03:56:24 · 56 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's right! He wouldn't tell you if he did. Maybe he's already thought about what he'd say to you should you ever ask if he cheated and came up with that answer. On the other hand, if he has cheated he'd have denied it immediately rather than giving you such an answer.
2006-10-10 04:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by yes darling 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Bad answer on his part ! I know some people say what you don't know won't hurt you....that's not true in all cases. I guess it could be in some, if someone cheated on someone else and the person never,ever,ever found out, as long as you don't bring some decease home ,and the other person didn't find out, I guess it wouldn't hurt them. But,I don't know how your husbands since of humor is ,maybe he was being sarcastic,still, bad answer ! Trust me I'm not sticking up for him, I think he was a jerk for saying that ! What would he want your answer to be if he asked you that ?!!! I really think some people are just not very tactful and quiet frankly, they can be very inconsiderate of others feelings, I'd say he was being rude and inconsiderate and a jerk !!
2006-10-10 04:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by crazartgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he has cheated on you? Did you have a reason to ask him? If he answered that way he was probobly joking around I'm not sure how your relationship is so its hard to tell. but if his answer really bothers you then let him know im sure he would have put a little more thought into his answer if he knew you were hurt by the one he gave you. Men were blessed with diarrah of the mouth it just comes out they cant help it sometimes
2006-10-10 04:01:17 · answer #3 · answered by slightlyjayded 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you don't trust him you're better off out of the relationship, if he said it jokingly then maybe he wouldn't, but from that answer it seems like he probably would, it is confusing, he could've said the first bit, realised it sounded dodgy and added the second bit hoping you wouldn't really notice, or he is cheating and is worried now cos he didn't have any kind of story to give ya, I'd be a bit iffy if my partner said that.
2006-10-10 03:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mummy of 2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guy or girl in his right mind would openly admit cheating when asked the question. You need to accept his answer and learn to trust when he said I love you and I'm not like that. Unless you can evidence any wrong doing.
Trust is a very imporatnt part of a relationship you have to give it to get it.
Learn to comunicate, and say i love you often
2006-10-10 04:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you feel you had to ask him the question in the first place? Have you a feeling that something is going on, if it was just a hypothetical question, maybe that's why he gave you that sort of answer. But if you were serious then I would maybe start having my doubts about him and would start investigating a bit more without him knowing and then you may get the answer to your question. Then ask him again when you know either way
2006-10-10 04:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by samporter1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not a confusing answer, he told u just what he wanted to he didn't tell u what u wanted to hear...........plain and simple (if) is the key work until u suspect this happening believe u me you'll have a woman's intuition a strong gut feeling and he won't have to tell u if he's cheating or not.....his behavior will change,he'll be nicer or meaner. lie about where he's been or where he's going. If u want the truth never ask a man that question until u have proof
2006-10-10 04:36:34 · answer #7 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he isn't cheating, that answer is not very reassuring or tactful at all. Keep your eyes open for signs but don't nag him about it. I'm a firm believer in that saying, what's done in the dark will come to light. Trust me, I know this from experience and it has worked every time.
2006-10-10 04:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on his personality which we cannot see. If he is sarcastic or funny, he may have been being a smart a_s or just having "fun" with you. If not, then he was serious. He wouldn't tell you but what man would? Most men would deny it even if they were caught in the act..... You will know in time and watch closely. I hope he is not but if he is he will get caught up. Best Wishes ..lol!
2006-10-10 04:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by cking_pOise... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what to make of it. I kind of agree that maybe you insulted him. I'm wondering if you suspected him or if it was just a hypothetical question.
I think if a spouse cheats, but still loves his partner, it is probably best not to tell. It will only hurt the partner.
2006-10-10 03:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋