Back when my wife and I were still dating, I had a "friend" of mine come help me move. I introduced him to my wife (back then girlfriend) and we rode in seperate vehicles. This "friend" and I rode in the U-Haul while my girlfriend rode in her car. This guy now has the nerve to tell me that he's "disappointed" in my new girlfriend. Said he would have expected me to be with an exotic chick from brazil, Dominican republic or something (mind you we are all black - me, girlfriend and this guy). Since that day I cut him OFF bcos I don't consider him a "friend" for him to disrespect the woman I'm with. However, my wife said that it was harsh of me to cut him off for that reason and can't comprehend why I would cut someone off who doesnt "approve" of whom I'm dating. Am I wrong for cutting this guy off?
2006-10-10 03:41:22 · 17 answers · asked by Blk Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It may have been a little harsh, but I don't blame you. He had no business saying anything about someone you are dating. I don't think he meant any disrespect, though. Maybe give him another chance, and tell him how you felt about his comment.
2006-10-10 04:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you were wrong because first the friendship u had u ovbiously miss it or u wouldn't be posting this question second this friend probably always said what he had to say to you...what u fail to realize is as friends we should tell our close friends what they need to hear and not what they want to hear....And i would think that he said "Man i'm disappointed in (you) I though u would have been with someone exotic(whatever) he's not disappointed in her it's u. U just didn't like the fact that he told u the truth and i'm sure this wasn't the first time that he spoke this way to you i'm sure he always spoke his mind.. it's just that u were happy with your choice and was disappointed that he didn't like your choice.......u know he talked about u to the guys right something so highschool and childish......now u miss him.......this was something u weren't suppost to relate to your wife anyway..some things are better left unsaid
2006-10-10 04:09:38 · answer #2 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were wrong to cut him off. Everyone deserves the right to an opinion, and if you can't be honest with your friends who can you be honest with? I have some friends that didn't approve of my fiance, and my response was asking them to take the time to get to know him before they made judgements....now those same two g/fs are more than happy to be bridesmaids at my wedding.
If you cut people out of your life for having an opinion, then you are going to end up lonely.
2006-10-10 04:04:16 · answer #3 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your wife, he had an opinion as we all do. Then yet again, maybe he was jealous of you because you had someone and he didnt. I dont think that I would have went that far, however, I would have questioned why he said that. And let him know that it is not what is outside, it is what is inside and just because she is not appealing to you, she is to me. That I was sorry that his thoughts were not what I was doing, but I live my life for me and no one elses approval. Good luck.
2006-10-10 03:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right and it sounds like your wife is used to being disrespected if she would say that is harsh, and your friends should always approve of who you chose!
2006-10-10 03:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong for cutting him off. I think it takes a real man to stick up for his woman like you did. He was wrong for saying what he said. And if he never apologized for it then hes not a friend at all. Your woman should be proud of you for sticking by her side like that.
2006-10-10 03:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it's wrong of him to judge your g/f (now wife), it was also wrong of you to cut him off.
Your wife is right, you should've just told him to mind his own business (in a nicer way of course), but just go on talking to him.
It's not like he cheated n you with your wife?
So he didn't do nothing that big and awful.
2006-10-10 03:49:45 · answer #7 · answered by cass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by amass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling a man that, about his very special woman, is a multi big no no. if you decide to blabber firstly, and decide to think about it secondly, the chance's of repeating it, are the same as this guys x-friend. nil.
2006-10-10 04:34:39 · answer #9 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it does sound like you were a little harsh. You should tell him that what he said offended you. I doubt that he meant it to hurt you.
2006-10-10 04:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋