What's the best way to put an end?

Question

I just don't understand him. Sometimes he calls me and we spend a grate time together, but after three days he doesn't phone me anymore, some days later he calls again acting like "nothing is happening"; and I just want to break that vicious cycle. I'm tired, I'd like to know how to handle this. =(

Answer 1

Does he have a busy lifestyle? He may be overwhlemed with things in his life that he's not confessing to. If not then it may be that he's not into a serious relationship. That could be normal at the beginning of a relationship. But if you've been together for a long period of time (a year or more) and things used to be much better, it could be a sign that your relationship is dying. It could be because the puppy love you feel in the first 12-18 months is leaving and there's no real basis for your friendship, or it could be that you've grown apart. Lasting relationships are based on friendship. He may be perfectly content with the way things are right now. If you're not, then let him know. If he blows you off and acts like it doesn't matter to him then don't waste your time. You've got better things to do and better people to do them with. Take care of yourself first. You're worth the best. But sometimes a guy needs a wake-up call. They take girls forgranted without realizing it. Talk to him. See his reaction. He could be oblivious that there's even anything wrong.

Answer 2

You could just stop taking his calls. Or you could just be honest. Tell him what you want out of the relationship. If he cannot give that, then tell him you don't want to see him anymore. It's all about compatibility. If you two want the same things from the relationship, it will work. If you don't want the same things, it will never work. So find out what he wants and if it is in line with what you want, why not give it a go? But if it's not, just wish him well and move on.

Answer 3

He sounds like he's messing you about. Simply picking you up and putting you down like some sort of rag doll whenever he feels like it.

The only way to break the cycle is to say goodbye, mean it and follow that path and don't turn back.

He obviously doesn't deserve you. Put more time and effort into someone you will get the same respect back from.

Answer 4

tell him you're tired of him acting like this.
but you cant put all the blame on him. why do you let him wait days before calling him and seeing whats up? if my BF didnt call me after 1 day, i would call him and see what he was doing and where he was. but then again, i practically live with him. but its not up to him to make all the contact in the relationship. it goes two ways. if you want to talk to him, pick up the phone and call. dont expect him to do all the work.

Answer 5

The best way to make the break is quick and easy. When he calls let him know that you are so sorry but made other plans for the evening. If this is his method of operation he is not ready for any type of commitment..

Answer 6

communication is the best way to handle this situation.
If chatting on the phone doesnt work, try texting/emailing your feelings & thoughts to him. Make sure he replies with his feelings & thoughts and understand each other.

Answer 7

You need to talk it out.If you are unable to talk it out with him,how would your future be with someone you can't talk with.
He is NOT treating you well now so tell him"HERE'S THE DOOR,DON'T LET IT HIT YOUR BUTT ON THE WAY OUT OF MY LIFE" good luck sweetie

Answer 8

GIRL WHAT TIME IS HE CALLING YOU ANY TIME AFTER 10.00PM IS A BOOTY CALL IF HIS CALLING 3DAYS LATER AND WITH IN THOSE 3DAYS YOU ARE HAVING SEX YOU ARE A BOOTY CALL AND IF YOU DON'T MAN UP AND JUST ASK HIM WHAT THE DEAL IS YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF AND I SAY THIS" IF YOU LIE IN THE BE WITH THE DEVIL YOU WILL WAKE UP IN HELL"

Answer 9

well be honest with this person... tell him you don't like the way he is handling this... your not a light witch he can turn on when he feels like it.

Answer 10

just tell him that you want to break up with him