What's up with my wife's "friend"?

Question

My wife has this "friend" she chooses to call a friend but back while we were dating it seemed like this friend of hers used to act funny whenever she saw my wife (then girlfriend) being all affectionate.This "friend" of hers has a problem with me as she tends to act all quiet towards my wife whenever I was around.I keep telling my wife that this chick obviously is no "friend" because I've NEVER done anything to offend her. The most conversation I've had with her is "Hi" and "Bye" and she even mocked the way I talked a few years back when I invited all of them to my birthday party (imagine that? She comes to my own party back when my wife and I just started dating and drinks my champagne and mocks the way I talk..My wife told me this back then).The day I proposed to my wife (May,last year) this "friend" of hers congratulates my wife and doesnt say a single word to me. My wife insists that this chick is her "friend" but I feel she truly isn't.What could be this "friend's" issue with me?

You see. That's it! I asked my wife if this girl is bi or something 'cos that's the only thing i could think of. She says she has a boyfriend but I say that's a cover-up.

Answer 1

She is ignorant and your wife needs to talk to her. She's married to you and that's where her main loyalty should stand.... could this friend fancy you? She just sounds rude.... your wife needs to respect your feeling about her rudeness and maybe only get together with her when your not around.... If she doesnt think you are good enough for her then too bad your wife obviously thought you were marriage material.

Answer 2

She may be jealous that your wife has you and she has no one. She may also, as weird as it may seem from her behavior, have an attraction to you. The idea being she tells you wife you are not good enough, wife dumps you, and she has a shot at you. She could also want your wife to pay more attention to her, but when you are around your wife pays more attention to her. It is also possible that she has a crush on your wife and is jealous of you. And last but not least, you may have offended her with out even realizing it at one time and she is carrying a grudge. Or maybe she is just a witch.

Answer 3

Maybe you could put a little effort forward rather than shrugging it off as her being a bad "friend". Maybe if you tried to talk to her more than saying "hi" and "bye" she would like you more. Besides it doesn't really matter if you and her are buddy buddy. So long as your wife and her get a long and treat each other well why does it matter?

I think you are being just a tad (Ha) paranoid over this whole thing. You need to either put more of an effort with your wife's friend or drop it all together.

Answer 4

Don't worry about her man. I just got married 6 months ago and I got different reactions from her friends as well. Most of them simply do not like me because I am into way different things than they are and there is very little common ground we have between us. My bet is that this friend of hers has had very few satisfying relationships and is probably very jealous of your soon to be wife. I know some of my friends were not all that happy with me as well and have given very little support to her. When it all comes down to it, this is between you and your soon to be wife. (Believe me, sometimes I think women are more worried about the quantity of friends than the quality, but then they are wired different than we are.)

Ignore the jabs of her "friend" and just concentrate on the relationship between you and your fiance. This friend will either straighten out toward you or will show herself as someone who is not that great of a friend. Play it cool and do not be negative toward this friend. You must be civil and tolerant, but you don't have to try and be friends with her.

Answer 5

maybe your wife's friend is upset because of one of three reasons...if they were friends before you met your wife maybe she's jealous and feelings like you stole her friend away from her. even if they still hang out. also if she isn't in a relationship herself she might be jealous if you show your wife affection and that is what she wishes she has. or it could be that maybe she had a thing for you but you are with her friend...you might want to sit down and have a talk with her and see what the deal is because her being like that might just be how she is or how she shows she likes someone.

Answer 6

Maybe you should wonder what your wife is telling this "friend" about when you're not around... It's possibly something negative your wife said about you when you were fighting or mad at each other that this friends can't get over. Nobody wants thier friends mistreated by a guy

Answer 7

When I first started reading your problem here I thought your wife's friend was gay. (figuring that maybe she wanted her for her own self) But, then you said she congratulated her on the engagement and that threw me off. I still think that this friend of your wife's just enjoys having your wife all to herself.

Does this friend have a boyfriend of her own?
hummm maybe she is gay.
Let us know more about your wife's friend.

Answer 8

I say this ''friend'' is a jealous piece of work. I say you don't over extend yourself to this ''friend''. I say you tell you wife, that's your ''friend'', but the minute she start causeing problems in my marriage...THAT'S HER ASK!!! (;

Some woman are so clingy to all the wrong things, case & point, your wife and this ''friend''. If this woman disrespects you like so in front of your wife, and your wife hasn't checked her ask about it, she just continues to defend this bat, then you need to check your wife.

Answer 9

Shes obvious just either jealous of you and your wifes relationship.....or she really cant stand you for whatever reason she has. Have you ever asked the girl straight out,,,whats her issue with you??? That would probably be the best thing for you to do.....and see what she says.

Answer 10

If she is not Bi-sexual, then there ain't no Cows in Texas, ask your wife if she is in to a 3 some, that will get ya a quick answer!