My daughter lives in Michigan, she has a baby. She's still with the baby's dad.. Problem is He has anger problems and abuses her verbally and physically.. I tried telling her that she don't deserve such treatment and she needs to get away from him also it's not good to have the baby around the abuse. She says she wants to leave but she is scared she wouldnt be able to make it on her own.. She works and the cost of child care is outrageous. And also she says she don't want to take the baby from his dad. How do I get her to realize she deserves better and the way he treats her is wrong? I'm afraid he is really going to hurt her one day.I'm afraid for her life.
2006-10-10 02:35:13 · 9 answers · asked by Tracy 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My daughter knows her and my grandson can come live with me anytime..
2006-10-10 02:59:10 · update #1
I was in the same situation with her dad for 18 yrs, I blame myself for not leaving sooner when my kids were little, I think now she is with someone just like her father.
2006-10-10 03:05:19 · update #2
Women who allow themselves to be abused often end up dead. Tell her you understand that she's scared but being alone won't last forever and being killed is permanent. She must think of the safety of her child too. At best, the child will suffer emotionally forever from being in this toxic home. At worst, the baby will be dead, too. There are safe houses, women's shelters, family members, or she could share a house with another woman in the same situation. God will make a way where there seems to be no way. But she must take the first step and get herself and her baby away from this monster.
2006-10-10 02:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is either going to be scared to make it on her own or die at the hands of her baby's father who is going to go to far one night. She need to think about that if something happend to her then he could be potentially raising that baby and does she want her baby to turn out the same way as dad? Can you get her to your house? Can you drive out there and get them while he is away at work one day..she then could get a restraining order against him..although they are basically worthless... has she looked into geting some help with paying for daycare? Some kind of child care subsidy? She really has to think what is best for her baby, along with herself she is not doing her baby any favors,somewhere deep down inside she probably knows this, she need reassurance that she can do it on her own and that you will be there to help her in anyway that you can!
2006-10-10 09:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well offer to babysit the baby. If you can maybe oneday put a camera in her house and video tape his actions and show her that what he is doing isnt right and that she should leave him. It may take her awhile though, i have seen it. My mother just left my dad and it took her to watch us get physically and emotionally abused. Iam now 13 years old and my brother is 14 and we have been abused since we were really young so yea.
2006-10-10 09:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nena A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you will help her. Offer her to come stay with you. Tell her that he will eventually start abusing the baby too. My sister and mom was both in this situation. My mom was in it for 46 years and my sister was in it for 16. I don't know why women insist on taking this. One day she will have enough, hopefully it want be too late. Tell her that he can see the baby by visitation.
2006-10-10 09:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Xena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could only do so mush It's up to your daughter to break free from this abuse,but she needs to know that living with this guy will only cost her more pain and disappointment.This child can even develop the same abusive ways as his/her father.
2006-10-10 09:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important role you can play in this situation, is to be there for her unconditionally, and make it well known to her and everyone else! Let her know that you love her and you love her baby, and you always will, NO MATTER WHAT!....Let her know that you will do anything to help her and keep her safe if she does decide to leave him. I was in a simular situation (I was being abused) (He would tell me that I didn't have anywhere to go, because no one else loved me....no one wanted me or my children. He told me that he would kill my kids, he would kill me, and no one would be there to help me).....You need to be there for her to show her that she has someone there, and that she can depend on you to help her get out and STAY out. Hope this helps...My prayers are with you and your family!
2006-10-10 09:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep bribing her about, moving to you and go back to school or you wil be there for her, keep the communication going, if he physically abuse her like, honey, you should call the cops, eventhough it will hurt her by embarassing her or taking him away from her, its the right thing to do. Don't just sit there and wait. Do you rather see her suffer? and one day see her dead? Women who are inlove like that don't have abilities to use thier head, they usually use thier hearts most of the time. Take her away, period!
2006-10-10 09:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right she need to get out now and you should ask her to come and live with you and that's would be one worry she would not have to deal with ... and as for the baby's dad well if he want to see the baby he need to come where she is living and see him /her and the first thing she need to do is worry about her self and her baby cause if shes not happy the little one is going to know that ..................kids are not dumb they know more then we think thay do sad but true
2006-10-10 09:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
offer her a place to stay at your house, if possible.
I can understand. I am afraid to leave also but I am not physically abused.
I live in Michigan as well.
2006-10-10 09:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋