I want sex every day, my husband don't?

Question

He is 32, I'm 38. We've been together 6 months. He just told me today that he doesn't feel like having sex every day. I do. I never used to be like that, but with him I want him all the time. I feel like he misrepresented himself as someone who has a sexual drive equal to mine, now he admits he doesn't have it. Who needs help here? Me for excess sexual drive or him for lack of it considering his age?

Answer 1

Him for not wanting it everday! You'd be a dream come true I think for most men

Answer 2

It's very normal for sexual needs to change through the relationship. Sex is important to your self-esteem and sanity inside of a marriage. Your Husband doesn't need to want sex in order to make sure your needs are met. Explore masterbation and oral sex with him. Failing that discuss the possibility of an open marraiage as an alternative to divorce.

Answer 3

make it a fun, sensual event...filled with romantic candles, fill the room with aromatic scents, play some soulful sexy music, do something different every time...dress up in sexy lingerie...

The union of two people should not be all about sex, it's about unity!! Drawing on each others' strengths!! He didn't misrepresent himself to you, he loves you - He married you - be blessed with your marriage..

Do not be too fussed about your sex drive, it's a normal event, you are at your highest sexual peak!! Just work on a way with your Husband so you can fulfill your needs.

Answer 4

He's prob 2 tired [work, etc.] BUT be careful...my man of 13 years has always had low sex drive [twice in a good month]. Result? me angry, tense, frustrated [sorry, vibes only cut it for so long!] lying awake nights while he snores away in oblivion. Had an affair, he found out, still together, but no improvement. Resigned to accept this is my future. Sort this problem out now before its too late

Answer 5

No one is at fault. My husband was not passionate or loving. Very simple man. My story is sort of like Bridges of Madison County with Streep and Eastwood. He was a good hardworking man. For 20 years, I settle for sex now and then. Boring sex at that. Two minute sex all for him. Then I hit forty years old....and I tried to spice our sex life up. I got instructional videos for myself...because I thought it was me that was doing something right. It really hurt that he didn't want to or desire sex anymore. I heard other married women who were happily satisfied. It was so bad, I cried after our 2 min. roll in the hay...I didn't even want to get all excited just to be let down. It was horrible. Unfortunately, I looked elsewhere. And WOW....I discovered ectasy and orgasms like never before...it was awesome. I even began to think my husband was gay. The man that saved me was four years older than my husband. I felt like a sixteen year old. Needless to say, I left my husband after secular-counseling and instructional videos and church counseling and many conversations asking him why he didn't feel the need to pleasure me at all. He made up all kinds of excuses about his age....too tired...too busy....wait til the kids moved out...horrible. Anyway, I left. I got to where I never desired him because the love and even the "like" was gone. I was so busy with raising my family of 3 kids/him and work that when we got the semi-empty nest era....we were not happy. Especially me. I feel your pain. Not sure if what I did is the best answer....but I saw no light at the end of the tunnel.
He would never answer me or act like he cared. He would go six months without touching me. And when we did do anything, it was slam bam thank you mam.

Answer 6

ok so here is what is happening, and its not what you think but before i tell you the information that will point you to the actual solution to your husband's problem, you have to truly appreciate it and not be stingy: YOU MUST TELL MANY OTHERS THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE ABOUT THE TRUE NATURE OF THE PROBLEM, AND POINT THEM TO THE SOLUTION. because hundreds of millions (im not exaggerating) of people suffer from the same problem, and they do not know where or to whom they can turn to for proper and practical advice that is the actual solution to their problem. I alone cannot speak to everyone individually. but with a number of people like yourself we can collectively talk to much of th worlds o that the true nature of the problem and the solution to it (the book) is known. what should occur is that this knowledge will become so known, that healthy dialogues on this information will become prevalent and common knowledge. ok so here goes: he is being mentally tricked. he gets a mental hgh from the sexual preograming, which because of the subject matter being a sexual one, he mispericeives wht he is getting as a sexual high. (some people call it a rush) its basically the impact that they are after. its like jumping out of a plane, and your senses and you rmind is overwhelmed. now, yuou have to understand that various sexual presentations are filled with mind manipulation techniques, that strongly impact the mind. its interesting also that they are naked so the guy watching cannot see that they are tricking him, because they are physically not hiding a thing. however the method of their tricking is clever and devious. i recommend for you to get the book that i have mentioned after my answer and you read it so that you become familiar with what is actually going on. the mental impact that they are producing you cannot possiby match, without understanding what is happening. then you also musty have him read it. he needs to go straight to chapter 1 and read insight #1 then go straight to read insight #2 and so on and so forth till he reaches insight 242. do not read the explanations underneath each insight, unles you really have to becaue you might not understand an insight. after finishing the insights, go back to insight #1 read it again, this time read the explanatinos underneath each insight. this way finish the whole book. he needs to read to understand the knowlegde of the insights he needs to apply the knowledge he needs to practice applying the knowledge untill he becomes perfect at it. Thank you for listening his problem has nothing to do with you not being god enough. he is after a mental high, which he incorrectly percieves as a very powerful sexual experience.

Answer 7

You two need to get into counseling before his lack of sex drive sends you to another guy for fun. Two things couples fight over money and sex so get some help quick because you will resent him for not putting out. Have you told him he can just lay there and you ride for fun

Answer 8

He is the younger If t he ages were flipped I would understand more.I'm 45 and i can't get enough No I don't understand.But just the same play it by ear maybe he will catch up if not then go from there.

Answer 9

Age has nothing to do w/ it. Try being spontaneous or seduce him all day by leaving him seductive messages on his phone or naughty pic of u. I felt the same way w/ my hubby b/c I never had that problem b4 w/ my exes but my hubby just had another agenda.

Answer 10

i think the problems here is what do you think is more important? sex or your life with him (everything you both going throuhg daly) good to have sex all the time dont get me wrong but you have to think about other things rather than sex????? how about enjoy daly activities? kids and other things? if you really need sex that much i dont think any man in this world can provide it for you even though they all say yes good luck

Answer 11

The simple anwser here is "vibrator", man If your hot I would totaly picture this right now, but this is for you. You should ask your husband why he really does not want it, you, him thinking he will get tired of it, or him thinking you will get tired of it. or maybe your not giving him head enough, give him head everyday, then if he let's you then, you know he can have sex everyday, and he's got another problem.