i've known him for a little over a year and i really like him, but he has a girlfriend, but he ALWAYS flirts around with me, and he told me that he sees me as more then a friend. i feel like he's giving me mixed signals. but i dont kno wut to do b/c i wouldnt hurt his g/f. just b/c i dont like her doesnt mean that im going to do something to her that i wouldnt want to happen to me. so WHAT SHOULD I DO? i try and keep my distance and not talk to him unless he does to me first
2006-10-10 02:29:23 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, he's really lucky to have a friend like you; anyone would be. It is wonderful that you have chosen to stick to your values even though you don't like his girlfriend!! Hang on to your principles, you will go far in life. As for your best friend, he sounds like a player that maybe wants to be friends with benefits. I don't know how old you are but if you are in your teens, and he is too, you must understand that he has raging hormones and can only focus on that most of the time, which includes gathering potential sexual partners in case he needs a back-up if his relationship falls through or isn't providing him with the attention he is seeking. This doesn't make him a bad guy, just a guy that can make some decisions based on biology, not friendship. I suggest that you be straight with him about your intentions and if he really values your friendship, he will respect you more for telling him and may at least explain his behavior if not stop. If he really is a friend, you won't hurt his feelings any more by telling him than you will by keeping your distance without telling him why. Good luck!
2006-10-10 02:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by sjlovescc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first question is what he means by more than just friends, is it like a sister possibly. If so you don't want to make a fool out of yourself. Sounds like you need to do a little more research then evaluate the situation. If he was friends with you before he began dating her then I would say back off. If he was dating her first then he may have been looking for a replacement for her when he became freinds with you if so persue the relationship if that's what you want.
2006-10-10 10:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by American Pride 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can either be honest and tell him how you feel or just keep him at arms length until he is single and then if you want to take the relationship to another level then it will happen. He shouldn't be playing with your emotions like this......maybe he really likes you as more than a friend but he has to end things with this girl first. If he was that happy with her he wouldn't be making a play for you.
2006-10-10 09:35:10 · answer #3 · answered by KAZ M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you said it all! You like him, he likes you.... She will be hurt, but the question is how much?
It is his girlfriend, not yours. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. tell him that you will be there for him, and it's up to him to choose with who is he going to be. Also tell him: Look, I don't want to hurt her, or mess up your relationship, I am only doing what I think it's best. I'm not forcing you to do anything, I'm leaving you the choice. I'm willing to give you some time to think it through.
He can't sit on two chairs at once! If he wants to be with you, don't accept to be second in his life. If he had this type of relationship in mind, don't fall for it! Tell him that you want to be his girl, not his secret... He must leave her, then you two can have future.
About their relationship, look, it's best for him to leave her. I mean, it would be devastating for her if she wakes up one day and realizes that she was living in a lie. He must tell her how he feels. But I would left the part about you. If they break up, you two should lay low 2-3 weeks. It's not good to rub your happiness into her nose, wright? Besides, before making the public appearance, you two need time to get to know each other, one is being friends with someone, and totally different thing is being with someone... Good luck honey!
2006-10-10 09:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Looda_Plavusha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First i have to say that you sound like a very nice person. But you have to think about your self too. If you really like him and he likes you,... Like come on, the guy just has a girlfriend, HE IS NOT MARRIED. And she'll get over it.
Oh and maybe you should also think what will hapen after you brake up. Is your friendship worth risking for a maybe short relationship.
Good Luck
2006-10-10 09:38:38 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Ywanica ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not pursue any relationship with him.He has a g/f if he is doing this to her your going to get the same treatment.Find some one of your own you deserve it he'll have you wasting your time on something that is not worth waiting for.
2006-10-10 09:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is your best friend.... talk to him. Tell him you are not cool with him treating you like meat, and if he wants to be more than you friend there is something he has to do first. If he continues stop hanging out with him, he is not giving you the respect you deserve.
2006-10-10 09:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should just tell him how you feel and maybe he will understand and if not just don't be his friend,because it seems he wants to be friends with befits
Well I hope I helped you with your problem
2006-10-10 09:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rick R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he is just keeping you on standby..
If his regular booty leaves him or they break up your next on the booty list..
plain and simple
2006-10-10 09:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does this guy know your feelings toward him?
2006-10-10 09:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by anon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋