My husband and I had a problem a few years ago with a friend of ours who decided she liked him and didn't care that he was married, well, when he figured out what she was up to he stopped talking to her as did I, this past spring we started having some problems, he is unhappy with his job and thus unhappy with everything, and he started talking to her again, one day she showed up at our church out of no where and I thought that was really strange and I asked him had he heard from her at all and he told me no, 3 months later I found out he had been talking to her and lying to me about it, well at that point he told he was no longer going to call her and she couldn't call him, and that has stopped, but now at church she always has some reason to talk to him he is our tech director and she is training on the sound board, but its stupid questions that even I could answer, I know she is just trying to get to me, but I don't know what to do?
2006-10-10 02:17:02 · 14 answers · asked by troublegt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't you both confront her as a couple? That would certainly put a stop to all this nonsense.
2006-10-10 02:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her infront of your husband to leave you all alone. He is a married man and to stay back. Then let the pastor know that he has an adultress in the church. I would also threaten her and say if she don't back off, then she will have to leave.......then give her a week or so and see. If she still is being ignorant, then stand infront of the church, when you have a moment to speak to the congragation and tell the entire church how you want to work on your marriage, and this woman is constantly in your husband's face, break down and humiliate her. I hate women like her. If anything she should be supporting your marriage and backing the H*LL off of him!!
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2006-10-10 09:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ignore her and her childish playing around. If someone is acting like a child you need to treat them like a child. It sound's to me like she is just trying to pi$$ you off. If you do not allow it to get to you in front of her or your husband the game will end. If your husband is still lieng to you, than I would consider talking to him and finding out what the real problem is and going from there. You can not keep someone that does not want to be kept. I wish you the best of luck. Kill her with Kindness. She will cringe at the sight of you every time if you are able to do that.
2006-10-10 09:21:59 · answer #3 · answered by Niecy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her out of your lives since she seems to be the problem. But its your husband who keeps allowing her in by talking with her. Until he tells her to back off the problem will remain. But I'd have him do this while you are right there. Good luck to you.
2006-10-10 12:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your husband in check. The other woman is not the one causing problems by herself. He needs to figure out who he really wants to be with.
2006-10-10 10:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have what she wants, and that should give you a big boost. Let her try, What are the chances that she will land your man, none, let her look like a cheap slut that likes to try to steal husbands, and you look like the loving wife, you have already won this fight, the ring is on your finer not hers!
2006-10-10 09:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by spalmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront her and tell your husband he needs to stop conversing with her behind your back. That is so wrong especially in church.
2006-10-10 09:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will keep doing it until he puts a stop to it.
He won't put a stop to it cause he cares more for himself than you.
You can get mad, scream & yell all you want but in the end it hads to be him that makes it go away.
2006-10-10 10:38:49 · answer #8 · answered by Emptiness 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS TO FIX THE MESS HE HAS CREATED. LET YOUR PASTOR KNOW IMMEDIATLY. ALSO INFORM YOUR PASTOR THAT YOUR HUSBAND HAS BEING LYING TO YOU FOR SEVERAL MONTHS.
HE HAS BEEN CARING ON AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR IF NOTHING ELSE WITH THIS WOMAN. I WOULD ALSO BE CONCERNED WITH THE FACT THAT WHEN YOU HAVE PROBLEMS , HE SEEKS OUT ANOTHER WOMAN.
2006-10-10 09:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! They both sound like a couple of fine upstanding church goers!!! LOL!
2006-10-10 10:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋