I've no right to do this but I can't resist checking my hubby's mobile phone. I can't believe it when I saw messages going out to other women (different phone numbers!) showing messages with affectionate terms like wife and darling!
2006-10-10 02:05:16 · 27 answers · asked by june_seet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is unacceptable, calling other women wife and darling. You should definitely bring it up.
2006-10-10 02:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The REAL question is .....why do you feel like you have no right to do check his phone if he is your husband? He should not have a separate private life apart from you. Everything should out in the open.
Now to ask, how has he become so intimate with this women so that he is calling them darling and wife? He must be sleeping with them. Ask yourself when the last time you were intimate with your hubby and if he is different about it. Does he flirt with you less than before?
Affairs take a lot of time. Hire a dectective to track his days. Get a GPS tracker to mount under his car to track his whereabouts without him knowing it.
Go back to his phone, copy the phone numbers you question. Pull up the phone number on the whitepages.com , by doing a reverse lookup. Document the names, numbers, addresses, as well as the time of the calls.
Do not confront him about these just yet. First tell him you want to go to marriage counseling to work on "our" relationship. Confront him in front of the therapist. He apparently has unmet needs and seeks to meet them elsewhere. If you want to keep him, you will both have to work on your relationship. If he refuses counseling, lay the line down that he cuts all contact with all women or else you are out.
If you feel you will be leaving, you might want to copy all financial records before you separate.
2006-10-10 02:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you felt a need to check his cell phone? Perhaps you were already feeling a bit suspicious about him? A woman's intuition can either lead her astray or be right on point. The former only occurs when communication is absent. I would approach him and have an open, honest discussion in a NON-ACCUSATORY manner. But please don't think that you shouldn't confront him about this because it is improper. Men kill me because if the shoe were on the other foot, a woman would be branded for life. She would never be able to live down a single indiscretion! Men? I definitely think you should 'confront' him but as I mentioned earlier, please approach this with care. He could very well try to turn this around and ask why you're checking his cell phone. The bigger question is why is he exchanging these types of messages with other women? It's not a good look...
2006-10-10 02:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'd do is call the numbers the messages went to and ask them what's going on. You'll find out one of two things: He's let someone else use his phone and nothing's wrong at all, or he's having multiple affairs that these other women don't know about. If that's the case, I'd make sure they did so you can all kick him to the curb at once.
2006-10-10 04:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by Fiona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES confront him. I did this a year ago and was about to leave my family for someone else. My wife found it in the phone records first. We went through a lot of counceling, but we stuck it out and now we have a better marriage than ever. Not every story will have a successful ending like ours. But you need to confront him ASAP!
2006-10-10 02:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by [B] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That "B". I would have a problem with my husband calling another women, wife. Now, that is totally out of the question. However, this doesn't signal an affair, neither is talking to the opposite sex. Ask him. Why are you checking his messages? Did the trust run out of your relationship? Or, is it that, you are going through a few things.
2006-10-10 02:09:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife can rifle through my stuff anytime. I have nothing to hide from her. If you felt compelled to go through your husband phone it's probably because you suspected something.
It's a form of cheating. I call other girls sweeite or honey even when my wife's around, that's just the way I am. I don't have conversations with women that I would need to keep secret from my wife.
2006-10-10 02:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are given our intuitions for a reason.You had to have some sort of feeling that he was not being 100% honest about things in order for you to check his mobile phone.I suggest you confront him, but don't be surprised if you find out he let one of his friends use the phone to text their wife.I would still question it though because not all of them say wife and there are allot of them.
2006-10-10 04:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man will call other women that they know by darling / honey / baby / luv, etc,etc.
I know this man who is married with 3 kids but call me darling and at times introduce me as his wife to his friends (who dont know his real wife). But I dont feel any special feelings for him.
Its just natural for men to behave like this in front of every woman.
2006-10-10 17:41:33 · answer #9 · answered by lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By confronting him made you looks like a shrewd. No doubt he is cheating you, you shouldn't confront him. The moment you start to confront him, it give him excuses to run away and the problem is never solved. You must think carefully how to solve this problem instead of confronting him.
2006-10-10 05:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋