We have been together for 6 months and I love him very much he makes me very happy and I have prayed for god to send me an answer but it seems like hes not responding!!! I love my fiance very much but i dont want to be an embarassment to my Parents!!!
2006-10-10 02:00:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did you ever stop to think maybe you have gotten the answer from God, it's just not the one you want to hear? Don't give up on Him. He hears all sincere prayers and answers them, in His time.
I don't mean to sound preachy, but that was something I learned the hard way. The odds are against you and your fiance, but that doesn't mean it won't work out and you will grow old together. You are very young. I know I look back at being your age and think, "OH MY!!! Glad my life didn't turn out like I thought I wanted it to back then!!!!" Just keep praying and be open to whatever answer you are given, even if it is one you don't want to hear.
2006-10-10 02:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not the first, nor the youngest. I was married at 19.
It doesn't matter what other people think. As long as you and your fiance are happy. Most of the time when a marriage fails at an age like that, it's because instead of listening to yourself, you are listening to everyone else and worried what everyone else is thinking.
Let your parents deal with the other people who want to tell them their daughter is being stupid. Their parents, they can handle it. And if they disagree with the other people who you think are looking down on you, then they will definitely voice their opinion and it would be the end in that.
Also, nobody is going to look down on you. Most are surprised that people 'our age' these days are willing to get married and settle down. Back in the day, people were married by 15. Two of my aunts married at 13 and 15 and are still married 35 years later. It's not about age, its not about other people, its about how you make each other feel.
2006-10-10 02:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a daughter too but she's only 11. I've been on my own since I was 15 and 'hard' just wouldn't describe how hard it really was for me. No family, no help. When you have kids of your own, you'll feel the same way about them: you don't want them to get hurt or struggle - you want them to always be healthy, happy and safe. Your almost 18 so you'll be of legal age anyway to get married. So if you hung in there for 6 months, a little longer wouldn't hurt would it? Finish school. If your b/f really loves you, he'll wait too. I wish you luck.
2006-10-10 02:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should break the engagement...you are way too young to get married. Neither of you have explored the world yet...and you are throwing away your future...both of you.
There is a lot more to consider than you could possibly know about at the age of 17...Ask all the adults you know, about how old they were when they got married...and, ask all the ones over 30, how many of them are still on their first husband or wife...you won't find many.
2006-10-10 02:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love Him follow your heart. But take it slow Keep a long engagement since your so young to make sure you are ready to be married. Dont let your family make the decision for you but listen to their opinions and think and pray about it. Only you know whats the right decision just dont rush into anything if he loves you he will wait for you
2006-10-10 02:19:16 · answer #5 · answered by Catie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Engaged at 17 after 6 months is kinda fast. Remember, marriage is a life long commitment. Most people just think "if it don't work out, we'll divorce. Divorce is NASTY. It ruins your credit, and stays with you for the rest of your life. And who wants to marry a divorced person.....not me. Make sure you keep your options open. There's allot of people out there that could make you happier. How old is he>? Your gonna recieve criticizm. But you do what you think is right, and who cares what everyone else thinks.
2006-10-10 02:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why must you get engaged now? You have plenty of time to marry. Your whole life is ahead of you. You should hold off on the engagement and get through school and college. Then, if you guys still want to get married consider it then. Trust me. I am speaking from experience. I married when I was 17. If I had to do it all over again I would have waited.
2006-10-10 02:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Jewells 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your young but just because your engaged doesn't mean you have to get married anytime soon. Some engagements last for years so being so young I'd give it some time before you think of marriage and tell your parents just that. Good luck to you.
2006-10-10 05:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great...17 and "in love"....gonna go the chapel...gonna get married and live happily ever after. I think I'm going to barf...Here is a little prophecy for you... you will be 21 with 2 kids and a husband that feels trapped and feels he was too young to get marrried - so he cheated on you and knocked up another woman now he wants out. For God's sake don't get married, you are WAY too young
2006-10-10 02:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 month is not a real long time to "really" know someone deep down. I would have a cow if my daughter got engaged at 17. I want her to live a full life and go to college and experience all kinds of things(hopefully not drugs though) I want her to get a career first and make something of herself before she settles down and starts having babies..I want her to be secure that she can make it on her own if something should happen to her husband I want her to be able to support herself and not have to run home to mommy..I would gladly help her but....we always want what is best for our children. You really need to take sometime and think about your decision....you need to think long term, are you going to be able to go to college? how are you going to pay for it? How are you going to pay for food and rent and everyday bills? Don't you want to make something out of yourself rather than just be a house wife at the age of 18 or when ever it is that you are getting married???? What have you r parents said about your engagement? WHat have his parents said? I wish you the best of luck in whatevre you decide! Just remember marriage is supposed to be for LIFE!!!!
2006-10-10 02:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋