what if you like your best friend. and they dont like u bcuz they dont wanna lose da friendship that u have?

Question

its pretty complicated actually. i just wanna noe an outsiders viewpoint.
i liked dis dude right n hes my best bud. but he says that the only reason that he wont date me is because he dont wanna lose wht we got at this moment. i think its true, but at the same time... I LIKE HIM. wht should i do? juss get jealous whenever he dates someone other than me? its hard, cuz i like him and all we ever gonna be is friends? need ur help people that i dont noe!

Answer 1

You're not gonna like my answer, I'm going to be straight forward, its happened to me before so I know all about this situation.
Like I said its happened to me before but I was at the other end, meaning I was the one who just wanted to be friends.
You meet someone you really get along with, you have a lot in common with, you do everything together, never fight, that person could be your soulmate. But.....
But you're just not attracted to them physically, yea they're great to hang out with and you love them as a friend but you just can't see yourself dating that person cause you're not attracted to that person in that kind of way.
So you use the excuse of the friendship, you tell him or her that you don't want to ruin the friendship by dating and you would much rather be friends.
It's not that you dont like the person, its just that you arent attracted to them in that kind of way.
I dont mean to hurt your feelings but unfortunately thats what's going on with your friend.

Answer 2

Don't Kid yourself, that's merely an excuse 'cause he doesn't like u like that, and that is the safest way to turn down somebody without hurting their feelings, i mean u like him right? and u are willing to try something else am i correct? does that necessarily mean u dint care about the friendship as much as he does?
what is your answer?


that's a damn good answer lizap1, u beated me to it