K well I was asking my boyfriend if he thought I should start tanning because I have kind of lost my tan already, and neways I know tanning is bad, blah blah blah, so please dont tell me about that right now! but neways he is black right? and I know he is black and duh he knows I am white but the thing is we never talk about it and then when I asked him this question about tanning I was just trying to get his opnion because it matters to me that he thinks I look good, ya know? And he says "What are you trying to be black?" and I was like "huh?" cuz it took me off gaurd and then he started going off about white people wanting to "be black" Now I'm like WTF!? 1st what brought this on? and 2nd how is wanting to have a healthy glow wanting to "be black" and 3rd I guess I thought that was kinda rude and when I told him that all of a sudden he's acting different. maybe this interracial thing is a bad idea.....jeez i dunno i dont want to be with sumone who is going to start acting "racist"
2006-10-10 01:32:21 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i dunno what my question is, I guess I just want to know what his problem is all of a sudden! Like do you think I offended him some how because I like to go tanning?
2006-10-10 01:33:24 · update #1
No you didnt offend him he was offended long before you come around. You see it is like this. People have issues and for the most part they try to keep them hidden but they never stay hidden. His blowing out at you was just him showing his true colors (no pun intended) He is racist and a jerk, which is odd in itself because he is dating you which is not his own race. So it only would mean since he has such a hate for others who are not his race, I would say he is dating you for all the wrong reasons. I have nothing bad to say about interracial relationships unless one of the people in the relationship is racist.
2006-10-10 02:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Heart,
The tensions that you two are experiencing are only normal. I would not worry another moment about it.
If he truly has an issue wuth the skin tone then he`ll bring it it over and over in many conversations and then it`s ntime to rethink this relationship due to his under lying race issues. He could possibly be feeling a strain from the publics view of the relationship, the black community often times frown on the white/caucasian mixture coming into their element. Just as many of the whites frown on the mixture, but you already know all of this. So Chill for just a bit and don`t make anything bigger out of this and just watch and listen okay sweety. You stay alert and happy.
Hugs
Jim
2006-10-10 01:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is always going to be that edge or uncertainty in a mixed relationship... It's best to air all those feeling or doubts before becoming a couple... Get the other person to open up and spill their innermost guts so to speak... At least you'll know where you both stand and if the relationship is possible...
2006-10-10 01:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he sounds like he has issues with white people. Why in the hell would he go out with you in the first place then?? You said nothing wrong,,,tanning has nothing to do with wanting to be blk. Thats the dumbest thing i ever heard. If my man who is blk ever siad anything like that to me,,i would have kicked his *** out the door. Tell your boyfriend to GROW UP!!! maybe you should take another look at the relationship and see if those are the kind of things you want to deal with,,with this immature boy.
2006-10-10 01:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know why white girls tan anyway why cant you look like God wanted you to look if he wanted you tan he wouldve made you that way anyway thats bad 4 ya skin and you gonna look like a 50 yr old before you are 30. Tell him he needs a black girl or latino girl who are naturally tinted in color. He need to move on from you!!!
2006-10-10 01:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dump him he sounds like a twit, Just ask if he wants you to look pasty or have brazing tan I choose the Tan.
2006-10-10 01:36:25 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you tanned BEFORE you met him, I don't understand his comments. Tell him there is no amount of tanning you can do that will make you black and to get a damn grip.
2006-10-10 01:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's probably not the tanning issue.
something is up with the two of you
and it's probably not tanning.
which is causing him to act this way.
something is wrong in the relationship.
2006-10-10 01:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's not a racist it's just that he don't like you to go tan for a number of reasons.I'm in a interracial relationship and i hate when she go tanning.my main reason is what you don't want to hear my second reason is that I'm not attracted to her new complexion i just don't like it. .he doesn't mean that you wanna be black like us.he just don't understand why you wanna change your complexion.
2006-10-10 02:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by equality 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him if you wanted to appear as being black, you'd of put on black shoe polish. Does he see you putting any on? No he does not. So what is that telling him?
2006-10-10 01:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋