i joined a new school from class 7.my name is like a hindu girl but my title(mondal)could be muslim as well as hindu.the problem is no one ever asked abt my religion but recently i learnt thet there are so many in my class hates muslim (i dont know why).all my class teachers know that i am a muslim but my friends dosent.
so its been embarrasing for me coz i cant tell them i am amuslim coz then that will cost me my friendship.i know a lot of my friends dosent hate muslims and i am not embarrased thet i am muslim ,i am embarrased coz i never told them abt my religion.now whenever my teachers teach anytheing abt muslim or whenever i submit my my birth related things i dreD THEY WILL KNOW I AM A MUSLIM.i will tell them one day but at present i cant and so this mentality is giving me pressure,what should i do.?
2006-10-10 01:21:36 · 14 answers · asked by FLORA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Alright, here's what I would do if I were in this kind of situation. First, and most importantly, there's no shame in your choice of religion. Anyone who would judge you based on your beliefs is not a true friend, and you don't even need to listen to them. Now, I wouldn't exactly advertise my religion; having pride in your heritage is one thing, but there's no need to start a fight over it. I would say this exact same thing for Catholics, Evangelical Christians, Jews, and even atheists. Religion tends to be a sensitive issue here in the U.S.; people tend to have certain set beliefs about the members of other religions. I would try to gauge my friends for how open-minded they are about religion, and I would give my opinions of topics involving it, but I would not reveal my religion unless I were asked directly and I were confident that the person would be able to accept the truth. There will likely be some who would seek to belittle you because of your religion, but take my word for it: their opinions don't (and shouldn't) matter that much at all. By trying to make you feel bad, all they're doing is trying to manipulate you into conforming to their way of thinking. If you ever have to face this kind of person, don't give in to them. Try to defuse any situations involving your religion using humor or diplomacy. If that's not possible, just ignore it. And remember: honesty is a virtue, and it's appreciated among friends. If you trust them, don't feel afraid to tell them, because their reactions will tell you a lot about what kind of people they really are. In a way, it helps to separate the true friends from the fake ones.
Good luck, and whatever happens, keep your chin up and stay confident in yourself and your culture, because that's one of the things that makes each person unique. :)
2006-10-10 01:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by just_another_uk_fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there - Friendship does not ask religion or sex or age !! Thats the beauty about friends...
Go out and proclaim boldly as to who you are to all the so called friends. If they hate you just because of your religion it is a shame and shows how weak they are. They dont deserve your friendship at all...
Be proud about who you are and assert it rightfully. India is a free democracy. I do agree that there are many radical forces on each side who spread terror - but be true and stand up for truth....
I am a Hindu and have many Muslim friends - I am very fortuante and proud to have their friendship - and trust me - I dont think Religion has ever come in the way !! In fact it has helped all of us to respect each other better !!
2006-10-10 08:27:18 · answer #2 · answered by Beyboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Friend,
You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are, or what's your religion is. If you're a Christian, a Muslim, or a Jew. People should accept you for who you are, and what you do, rather than where you come from and how you worship God. So, my advice to you, as a Muslim brother, to openly declare that you're a Muslim, and when some people stop talking to you, only then you'll know who's the real friend, and who's the fake one...and for thos fake ones, have no sympathy over them...
2006-10-10 08:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by AG 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why do not you start discussing with them why they hate muslims. Whatever bad things they will pretend about them, you can tell them.. here we are, I am a muslim myself and You knew me for a while, I am not like that, right? You were wrong to judge millions of people by actions of very few of them. There are many bad hindi people as well, is this mean that all hindis are bad? May be you need to consult with your parents or a trustable faamily member etc.
2006-10-10 11:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by haggobti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they wont be ur friend coz of ur religion, then, you're better off without them..there should not be discrimination in friendship..
dont take it as a pressure..be proud of who u are..
2006-10-10 08:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your religion is what you believe in. You should not hide it for some persons who are so shallow to the extent that they might despise you not because of something you did, but because you follow a different religion!!!!
Stay proud girl and say it loudly whether they like it or not.
2006-10-10 08:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by rinah 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
as long as ure a nice human at heart..religion dont matter at all:) believe me BE STRONG..let the time pass by..n those who dont believe in your religion n dont accept u r not true friends or needs to be explained rationalisation in agoody way:) dont worry..life doenst stick to class 7 8 or 12 or wotever.. try to seek a councilor in yer school if u have one..try talkin to yer mom ..u r a human n have all the same rights as other students do!!
have faith in u! n keep shining! :)
2006-10-10 08:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by ☺♥? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be proud. If they dont like you for your religion who needs them!
Explain to them that not all Muslims are like the ones they tend to "hate"....not all white people are snotty and like Paris Hilton. Not all black people are rappers and ghetto lovers. :)
It's the media that drag down a certain religion, race, etc....and characterize it. Show them you are not "like the others" and be yourself.
If they are gonna judge you just on that - and they are already your "friends" you dont want them in your life!
2006-10-10 08:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do u really need to bother ??? does it matter whether one is a Hindu, Christian or a Muslim...u r friends love u and not ur religion....if they r ur true friends, they will never leave ur side...and the best way to counter this is to PROVE THEM WRONG...Cheers!!
2006-10-10 08:25:40 · answer #9 · answered by rahul_sett1981 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Friendship doesn't have any religion or whatever that separates us. If they were ur true friends they will alwys accept u.
2006-10-10 08:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋