I allowed myself to fall for another woman when I had a great marriage to begin with. Why do we cause ourselves these pains and the pain that it causes everyone else? Now I can't get this other woman out of my head and heart even though it is all over. I want to give my wife my all again, but I also miss the connection of the other. I don't get it. Is my head just screwed up still?
2006-10-10 00:50:01 · 7 answers · asked by [B] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
By the way, she did find out and we did go through couples counceling for about a year just to let you know.
2006-10-10 01:55:22 · update #1
does not sound like you were happily married to begin with. something must have been missing whether or not you were aware of it. if you still cant get this other erson off of your mind then maybe you need to do some serious soul searching and figure out what the real problem is. your wife deserves better than that if she is in fact remaining faithful to you. do you love her? then get in touch with the situation and make it right.
2006-10-10 00:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Teufel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need therapy and couples counseling. Did your wife know about the other woman ? If not then plain and simple you are a cheat and a liar. And did you not tell her because she would have divorced you? Well so would half the women in america. Get some help you obviously need some.
2006-10-10 08:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simplify said Thoreau: first of all decide what u want : the wife and family, keep on fantasy thinking in the heart and your head of the other woman, BUT NO MEET, NO PHONE, NO SIGNALS.
second if you think damn my present state that one is better, then go to the new one and f... her and damn urself ur home and your peace.
2006-10-10 08:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are looking for variety, attention and thrill. You love to feel desirable. I believe you when you said that you are happily married. Did you find what happened kind of spiced up your sex life? Do you feel that you want to cut it off but are very reluctant to do so because it gives you nice feeling about yourself? Do you believe you can fall in love twice? Do you feel guilty sometimes?
I understand what you are going through...but don't ask me why...
2006-10-10 08:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are in a solid relationship both partners become more attractive. They are happy and content. The adorphins are at a higher level and how one chooses to deal with flirtation, advances, etc. is up to the individual and how strong they feel within themselves to either withstand their convictions with their partner or risk destroying the relationship. It's all up to You!!
2006-10-10 08:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by spunkymom86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we socialize with people we should stay away from = The opposite sex. Don't stick around temptations, don't let it get that far to begin with. If you must talk to them at work - keep the talks work-related only. Especially if you find them attractive, keep away from them.
Remind yourself how/why your wife is better.
2006-10-10 07:56:55 · answer #6 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if your going out looking for something else.. means there is something missing from your current relationship
if everything was perfect and you were happy you wouldn't need to look else where..
so figure out whats missing and try and get that in your relationship with your wife
2006-10-10 07:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋