she is with me the whole time , in day or night , i have seen her and feel her presents around me every minute, i loved her so dearly, even now i wish i could join her and continue with her for eternity , even tonight as i type this on my computer i know she is at my side i love her the way i used to say , hon i love you so much ,to day my life means nothing to me i have every thing beautiful that surronds me and yet my four boys whom are all professional educated , hardly ever visits me , i am a psychologist and only i can understand the grief were going trough , al i ask is ! are their others in my situation and would like to help me
2006-10-10 00:49:38 · 6 answers · asked by lenihancornelius 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Since you are a psychologist, you can understand your condition the best. U noe that she is literally not there but since u miss her so much u imagine her everywhere... i appreciate your love for her... i am sure she always wanted to see u happy when she was alive and now also she wants you to be happy...wherever she is... if she wud see u this way.. it wud hurt her soul... so not for ur sake but for hers... get a hold of urself...startall over again... take interest in ur work, ur surroundings...
all the best :)
2006-10-10 01:00:19 · answer #1 · answered by Hu-me?? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your kids don't visit because it is too hard for them to see you this way and knowing they cannot fix how you feel. as for as your wife ,,she has passed, her body may have left ,but her soul no matter what is still with you as long as you keep that in your mind and love her with all your heart. as a psychologist you know how hard it can be to over come things that you are not ready for ,, well this is one of them. i don't think she would like to see you so depressed and un happy ---do you? remember you do have all the memeories the both of you made together.this is part of life and memories are made to cherish. you need to contact your kids and talk to them,now would not be a good time to start a relationship with anyone , but a friendship could help you a lot. don't punish yourself for something you could not help, be thankful that you atleast was able to spend her last days with her and she was not just taken from you in an instant without you there, unlike some people you were able to tell her how much she means to you and how much YOU LOVE HER AND ALWAYS WILL. that is something she was able to take with her when sometimes others do not have that chance.
2006-10-10 08:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg I am so sorry on the loss of your wife. You are having a very hard time right now and I know how you feel . 9 yrs ago I lost the love of my life to disease and I have moved on and that is what you should do. Life goes on I know it is hard to think about that ,but if you wallow in depression you may sink down so low you may never come back out of it. Please help yourself . Get out of the house have lunch with friends. I am sure your wife would not want you to wallow in depression over her. Also your sons might see you as depressed so much that they may not want to come and visit because of you being so depressed that it depresses them . So please get up and out of your house and do something. It is the best medicine.
2006-10-10 08:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
# yes, 10% of bereavements turnout like yours. simplify ur problem; the period of mourning is 1 year. love persisting all life, is poss. but in ur case its bcoming a problem of sentimental possession. and scaring the 4 sons away. you awake now, w/o forgetting her, join service groups, ballroom dance clubs, and a gym. any such where u come into contact with real people, girls. at age 55 you can come out and live your full meaningful [=sxxx] life to 80 with a new wife, or young companion, or just milf deep friend.
2006-10-10 08:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just reading your story is devastating you poor thing I am in tears I haven't gone through this but I can feel your pain. Be strong and tell them boys of yours to come and visit. You will pull throgh you just have to work at it
2006-10-10 08:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,,e-mail me &we can talk about life,,people help people,ednaspringnegre@yahoo.com
2006-10-10 07:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by mari-mar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋