What do think of interracial realtions, particulary Latino/Black?

Question

My boyfriend is Latino and I'm Black and we get a lot of judemental remarks and stares by strangers. His mom solely hates me because I'm Black.

Answer 1

Don't let what other people say or think about you bother you at all. You don't know these people, and if you do, they obviously don't have your best interest in mind. If you care about this man as a person, and not the color of his skin, his culture or his religion, then continue to grow the relationship. If this is a decent and good man, that should be all that matters to anyone.

However, his culture is very family oriented, and his mother hating you because you are black could be a problem. Talk to him about he feels about his mother's feelings. If you are looking at marriage, you are talking about a lifetime of struggle, and is he willing to do that. Can you sit down and get to know the mother?

I will be real honest here, as I am a mother and I am white. I always wondered how I would handle certain things when my daughters grew up and got involved with relationships and hopefully married. Frankly I was more concerned about religion as one of my daughters went with a catholic boy for a long time and we do not practice the traditional religions and didn't raise our daughters that way. His family hated us because we were not catholic, and this went on until they broke up after 7years. I always treated him with respect and like a member of the family, and they treated her ok until she broke up with him. I cannot imagine what our family would have been like if she had married him, I think I would have lost my daughter.

Maybe this is what the mother is afraid of, the unknown. If you intend to take the relationship futher, you are going to have to be the bigger person and do what you can to improve things.

Good luck to you, be strong.

Answer 2

It's all good, i like me some black girls and i'm MexiKin, don't c anything wrong wit it, theres latin girlz wit blacks so wutz wrong wit it the other way around, and for the record, Mexicans do not have black in them, we were not a large slave nation, the Spainiards made the Natives work the land, Puerto Rico and all them little islands, as well as South America do have a higher percentage of Africans, and bet yall didn't know Mexico wuz the 1st country to free slaves, since there was such a small amount, there is some still found in Veracruz

Answer 3

This question certainly proves the WIDE generation gap firmly cemented into our land. Reading through the answers I find none supporting God but all supporting one another's own whimsical wishes. So it is.

If you are at all interested in WHY cultures should not mix in marriage then your pastor or any clergyman can give you plenty of Biblical support as to why you should not intermarry.

Being twice the age of most who visit Y/A I try hard to remain openminded and compassionate. However, interracial marriage is a bad thing - always has been and always will be. It looks good on the surface, seems okay to those involved, but the longterm effects have been, are and will once again be devastating.

Besides, back in my day, Mom always did know best, so I would pay attention to his mother and look for love among your own kind.

Answer 4

I see couples like this all the time. I support interracial relationships and marriage, without it, most of my family would not exist. I find it hilarious that many Latinos who object to "mixed" marriages have more Black blood than the Black people they are objecting to. On the adverse, many Blacks are "color struck" and object to their children marrying Latinos who are too dark....crazy notions.

Mellow...how dare you impugn the entire clergy with these allegations of bigotry. I have followed this and other issues over the years with scholars, clergy and laypersons from various denominations; Catholic, Protestant, Islamic and Jewish...and what you allege is not true. Maybe bigotry flies in your circle of acquaintances,and associates but the world is a very large place and apparently you have very limited exposure. Please do not sully religion by using it as an instrument of bigotry and hatred.

Answer 5

Wow, I'm blown away with the mothers way of thinking, her skin is dark also and most Mexicans have some Black blood. Any way don't worry about what people say {they don't get out much} There is nothing wrong with dating outside of your race.My daughter is married to a Mexican (first generation) they have three handsome boys and a very loving relationship. So forget about the remarks and wanna be mother. America has got to get over this race thing, it's old and really very stupid

Answer 6

well I was very shocked to find out that Latino people are against dating blacks.I am from New York and I thought blacks and Latinos were already mixed.why i thought Latinos had plenty of African blood in them,I was surprised watching Tyra Banks show yesterday and seeing the racism .I don't know what to say b/c I always loved Latino people and have always thought their women to be so beautiful and full of life.I always thought of their men as passionate family men and concerned fathers and brothers.I am shocked that these people are against my people when I know most have African blood in their veins.Let's face this fact.we as slaves were dropped off at many different ports and we have married and mixed in with peoples all over the world so their is some African blood anywhere the body tans.If you tan darkly,you better know that some slave somewhere in your families history was present.I guess my New York thinking is wrong and we as blacks are just hated by mostly all.people like our tanners and brown color as long as it comes in a bottle.well I do apologize for infiltrating so many peopled DNA,but my ancestors didn't come here on the Love Boat and why we were bought here is a question that only God can answer.When i watch the hurricanes roll of the African coast and head towards America,I always picture Africa as the creator sending off these storms in the path of it's people who were taken away on the same path.Like the Native Indians who were sent away from their homes and took the Path of Tears,so is the path of the hurricanes,the african's path of tears.

Answer 7

I think it's cool. My brother is in the same situation you are in, he's black and he just married a cool Mexican women. However, both of our families are acting really uneasy about it. My dad even made a racist comment! (He has never did that in my life!) Saying stuff like, "You better use a lot of protection, you know those women are really fertile and keep popping em' out." Really disappointing, and her family is no better. Anyway, a lot of people try to hide this latent racism, but when you bring different cultures together and get people out of their comfort zone, you can get ready for the haters to come out. (You and your boyfriend should do what the two of you want to do. You only have one life to live.)

Answer 8

When I lived in LA, I had a black girlfriend, and it was funny because we would often see other latino dudes with black chicks, and she thought it was cute. Only once in chicago did a young dufus say SELLOUT to my GF, and we both laughed.
It is a proven fact Hispanic dude like black chicks.
My parents did like the first black GF because she was a fat slut, but my mom liked the second one because she was a good woman, but pops was a lost cause, just go for it if he is good for you

Answer 9

That's sad that she doesn't get to know you, but instead judges you for something you had no choice in. I spent a month in Denver, Colorado and just loved all the different folks I saw. Blacks were rarer there than my native Indianapolis, but there were all sorts of Latinos, Asians, and mixes that I couldn't even figure out. Love is stronger than ignorance.

Answer 10

Get used to it. There are always going to be that type of people around.

That said...

Don't let anyone control your life by deciding who you should date because of the color of your skin.

Nothing wrong with interracial relations. It's a misnomer anyway. The HUMAN RACE is the only one that matters.