Is it possible that you and your husband will be happy even though both of you are not really into sex? But you enjoy your company together because you have a good communication to each another?
2006-10-09 23:49:28 · 18 answers · asked by mean z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If both of you agree that sex isn't a big deal and you can take or leave it, and you enjoy all the other things about your lives together, then that's wonderful.
Don't let the people convince you that you need to see a professional just because you both don't care all that much about the sex part of the marriage.
Sex to some is important and to others it isn't.
If you two agree that it isn't all that important, then enjoy your lives the way you're living it.
2006-10-09 23:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife slowed our sex life to every other month about 7 years ago. This drove me crazy and made me resort to self gratification. Now she has stopped sex altogether and found her a bf who she is sleeping with. Her complaint was we stopped communicating and being close. From my point of view I grew tired of being told No so only had relations when she wanted them. Sometime in the last year she suddenly became a sexual tornado but was waiting for me to make the move but since I had given up years earlier we grew further apart. Communication is key just be sure that you both can freely discuss the fact your sex fequency and dont tune ouyt the other should they want it more/less than you.
2006-10-10 07:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by fortyninertu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both don't put a big importance on sex then it's all good. However, if one does and the other doesn't, that can spell trouble in the future. Sex is secondary in a long term relationship. i find that if I can't call my lover my best friend then, no matter how good the sex is, I'll be out the door eventually.
2006-10-10 07:35:16 · answer #3 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible. Sex is not what marriage is all about. There are other ways to enjoy your time together. Make the little moments count whenever possible.
2006-10-10 06:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is possible, love is alot more then just sex . As long as you have that great communication and enjoy each others company that's all that matters. :-)
2006-10-10 07:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by TINA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is really possible! And it is not true, that sex always is necessary in a marriage. People say that, because they are believing that themselves. But when you have a good friendship with your partner, it is not necessary at all, when you both have no need for it! And I know several of those couples myself!!
2006-10-10 07:08:48 · answer #6 · answered by Elize-Helen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's great to be able to communicate well, enjoy one another's company, but you really need that other level of intimacy to complete everything and enhance your life together. There's something to be said for those chemicals and pheremones...
2006-10-10 08:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage doesn't revolve around sex....and what you give each other in other areas makes up for it...Intimacy isn't just sexual..It's connecting with another indiviual in a way thats only special to the both of you.....
2006-10-10 07:04:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~oh I am the perfect one to answer this one~ our sex life sucks! he last about 3 min.'s ant that is it! so for yrs. we have based our marriage on the friendship we share. he is not cut , so oral sex is OUT! so it is probley bad on both sides of the relationship. I can not sit here and critisize him only... but thank god we have more in our life but the sex. we have the friendship that I would never loose for anything , I will settle for the less in our sex life.
2006-10-10 06:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is over rated. If you do it too much, it will get old.. At least you two have a good solid base for a relationship,
2006-10-10 07:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by Bates 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋