3yrs ago I had a stillborn baby (23weeks) and ectopic pregnancy 6mnths later....where my left tube was removed.
We have been trying since and still nothing,I had a test and my other tube is fine.
Will I ever concieve,also my periods are getting shorter so does that affect it ??
I do have 2 children 11 and 8....Do you think I've had my time and I should give up ??...Im 27
OR Should I go to the docs,would they do tests ?,I fear they may not take me seriously,...
2006-10-09 23:25:42 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I'm very lucky having 2childen,as some women never will have them.
I guess I took them for granted because I was young and now I'm finding it difficult because now I realise how presious they are.
I'm not being ungrateful,but I still feel the loss.
2006-10-10 04:07:41 · update #1
I can't answer your questions on your periods or the tests the doctors would do. But I would like to tell you that it took 4 years for my mom and dad to get pregnant with me. My mom was 23 at the time. She had some what of the same problem as you. And I was the second child. She finally just said forget it, and then next thing you know she was pregnant. She said she thought about it too much. Tried too hard, and wanted it so bad. When you stress about it, it only makes it worse. I can't even imagine what you've been through. I'm a new mom of a 2 month old. And we planned for him in a way, but didn't stress about it. Just took our time. Relax. It sounds like you're almost driving yourself mad. I'd see a few doctors see what they say, and just relax it out. You've got 2 wonderful gifts already. And another might be on it's way if you relax. Good luck to you!
2006-10-09 23:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by suagr_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a doc don't take you seriously than you stop seeing him/her
you should see a doc about your concern and ask how can you insure that you have a safe pregnancy
since you already have 2 children you know that the next one may not be ectopic
but since you don't want to loss your other tube it is understandable that you should be
so do have a talk with your doc or see a fertility expert (the later because you might want to here other option such insamination to insure that ectopic doesn't accur)
Good luck
2006-10-10 02:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I am sorry for your loss.
Second, If I were you I would go to my ob/gyn; if they don't take you seriously then you need to find a new doctor. It is probably going to be a little difficult without both tubes; plus there is probably some scar tissue to deal with. I would go to the doctor and explain to them how you feel; I am sure they will help you. And yes they will do tests, probably an ultrasound so they can look on the inside to see what is happening and also some blood work. Good Luck to you!
2006-10-10 01:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I don't want to come off being cruel or harsh, but unfortunately for you, after suffering from one ectopic pregnancy chances will be you are more than likely bound to end up with another ectopic pregnancy it is a known fact. But i'm not trying to leave you without hope, sometimes that is not the case. If in fact you really want to have another child than go for it, but i advise you to be careful and check yourself regulary to find out if you concieved or not cause if in fact you do end up with another ectopic, you could have more serious consequences depending on your situation. Since you have only one tube it does have something to do with the fact that your periods are irregular try asking you doctor for a recomended prescription (my doctor recomended PROVERA to regulate periods and CLOMID to help with fertility) more than likely, with or without help from the doctor you will eventually concieve, it will probably take longer than expected. If you opt for Medical Professionals and you have a good doctor he will help you or recomend a doctor that can help you. You should already be greatful that you have two children now, some women end up in that situation and then end up without any children!........
........GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-10 02:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by Jaye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep trying,it takes time. I had ectopic and my right tube was removed. My left was badly damaged with the ruptre of the ectopic. I didn't use contraception as i thought i could'nt concieve. 11 years later i had a lovely little girl. My other kids were 16 and 12 so it was a surprise. Don't loose faith.
2006-10-10 01:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by stormyweather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really impressed you keep trying after what you have been through, it can't be easy. Can I ask, has your partner had fertility tests? You could look at your diet, eat well, don't drink too much, don't toke too much, take vitamins and folic acid, etc. 2.5 yrs seems an awful long time but it's not that unusual. Talk to your GP about boosting fertility and your shortening periods - 27 seems a bit young. I really hope you get what you want. Good luck.
2006-10-09 23:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the reason your not conceiving is your worrying about it to much, this can stop you becoming pregnant i know it,s not easy , but i would still go and see your doctor. good luck hope it happens
2006-10-10 01:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by jackie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋