my fiance is from bangladesh and i am from the USA. We mutually decided to push back our wedding a year because I panicked. We had planned on marrying this November. He is at work in Bangladesh and I am at work in the USA so the strain is kind of hard on both of us. He told his mother that we were going to be married next November instead of this November and now she doesnt believe that I exist and that he is lying. I have never spoken with her as I dont speak Bengali and she doesnt speak English. so she is trying to find a girl for him to marry in Bangladesh. Does any one have any suggestions to this problem? Or similar experiences and what was your solution?
2006-10-09 23:25:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i panicked because of a few things that were going on at the time and now I feel reassured that everything will be ok.
As far as pushing the wedding back to november 2007, we had planned on getting married this november but things were just moving too quickly. Then we agreed to go on with the marrige but pushing it back to April of 2007. Then we realized that our finances were a little short so we pushed it back to November when we will have enough money to pay for a little bit bigger wedding and can afford a few things that we thought we werent going to be able to afford in the first place. Our wedding is by no means going to be huge or lavish or over the top.
2006-10-10 00:03:50 · update #1
im in the middle of learning sanskrit right now and then my next language will be Hindi. We have decided that we want our kids to be fluent in Hindi.
2006-10-10 21:23:57 · update #2
the fact you dont speak the language is really irelevant,her not believing you exist is down to him,,if he cant come accross as someone in love something here is wrong,,,can he write a letter dictated by you but translated by him? are you not in the background when he phones her?can she not hear you?,,make an effort to say 'hello' even the barrier of language can be broken down by the universal hello which everyone understands.maybe he needs to talk about you a little more otherwise you could find yourself on the receiving end of a surprise invitation,and you wont be part of the wedding couple
2006-10-10 01:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound particularly youthful. it style of feels somewhat sparkling that his mom's drug problem is on the basis of this. She searches by your stuff for money/issues she would be ready to sell or use to get extra. Thats what addicts ARE. they are not themselves, they manage, lie, and break themselves and their relationships.... and that they have got no thought what they are rather doing, using fact they stay in this style of dense fog. Now, to take all those strikes against you as in my opinion as you have (ie, to HATE her) shows you're somewhat immature and not knowledgeable concerning the character of addictions. You actually ought to manage her like a grown-up newborn. Your fiance must be stepping in, yet he in all possibility does not even understand the place to start. You adult males ought to seek for counselling, or i don't think of this problem is going away. in certainty, i can ascertain it worsening. exchange your attitude of the area, then you have got the skill to safeguard her strikes extra valuable. That doesnt recommend settle for it, in spite of the fact that it is going to placed you in a extra valuable place then the place you at the instant are. i desire you style this out formerly you marry him. stable success
2016-10-19 03:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by trowell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just an exuse for ur fiance's mother to find him a typical Bengali girl. Get married to him before things worsen...
2006-10-09 23:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by The_Rebel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you need to prove you are for real?, has her son lied to her in the past?, send her some flower's with a card stating you are looking forward to meeting her on your wedding day. Good-Luck and have a wonderful wedding.
2006-10-10 02:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wont it be the same next november? i mean wont he still be in bangadesh n u in USA? pushing to november is quiet far, if i were his mother, id find it hard to believe as well. anyway, am sure u have it figured out... Carry on wiith your plans n tell him to put his motehr in her place, she shudnt force him n he shudnt entertain any gals she suggests.
2006-10-09 23:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Try to contact his mother -send her gifts, beautiful cards(in bengali if possible),visit her- win her over. Your fiance has to be bold enough to follow his conviction. Tell him to be firm.
Why did you panick?
Good luck.
See Dilwale Dulhaniya Le jayenge....Believe in LOVE.
2006-10-09 23:35:53 · answer #6 · answered by sud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about usin web cam and talk to her online....in sign language, I suppose. Learn up a couple of Bengali words and greetings and let her see how nice and proper you are. And if you have pictures of both of you together, let her see them.
2006-10-09 23:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only the beginning, sweetie. The differences in cultures will doom this relationship in the end. It ain't gonna fly and what mom thinks will be the very least of your problems. But, you are going to go through with this anyway.......so why ask anyone???
2006-10-09 23:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why dont you go over and have a engagement ceremony to formalise the matter.it will put everyones mind at rest and prospective brides will know that he is formally attached to you.
2006-10-17 00:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Swan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her a letter with a picture of yourself that he can translate to her explaining what really is going on. Maybe that will help.
2006-10-09 23:28:34 · answer #10 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋