Ok he's 28, works really hard, and he has recently been working 18 hrs straight. i understand this, but he hardly ever wants it , and i feel a pest if, i keep asking him for it !!! what shall i do, has he got a low sex drive ? is this possible in men ?
2006-10-09 22:58:35 · 27 answers · asked by sweets 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stress and exhaustion are two leading causes of diminshed libido. He needs a long vacation with you.
2006-10-09 23:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by dcall2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible with men more than people think. It may not be a low sex drive just plane tired you say he works hard and has just done an 18 hrs straight so my guess he is shattered and sex last thing on his mind.
Try not to ask for sex although frustrating just give cuddles and kisses for a while it may be because you ask he also says no men do have their pride and like to do some of the chasing.
Cook him a nice meal, run him a bath, buy him some beer and get him all relaxed he deserves it for working so hard. Just have cuddles for now as long as he still gives you kisses and cuddles there is no problem.
If it persists then you need to find the right moment and ask him if he is ok and has he got any problems with you is he happy etc.
It sounds to me as if he is stressed due to work and that is a killer on sex life for anyone.
2006-10-10 06:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The urge for sex varies from one person to the other. Many factors also contribute to this. The first thing that you must understand is that you can never force a penis to stand erect.
The question that your partner hardly ever wants sex could be due to:
-medical reasons,
-bad atmosphere or bad attitude from yourself,
-You may not be responding well on bed as this is an act that should be enjoyed by both parties.
-Love is not shown by either side
-Your man may be keeping other ladies
and many more.
Be honest to yourself and correct where you are weak. Find time and make your man happy always. Find out what he loves and give him. Stay near him and tell him sweet things. You will come back to thank me.
If his problem is due to medical reasons, don't expose him, assist him as much as possible and assure him that all will be well.
2006-10-10 07:03:13 · answer #3 · answered by Michael A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you was working as much as him do you think you'd be tired? Do you think you'd feel up for anything? Just because he's a man doesn't mean he's never going to have a low sex drive.
I take it you've tried talking about it to ask him how he's feeling and tell him how you're feeling? Doesn't sound like it!
Suggest getting away to give him a chance to recharge his batteries. You never know having the chance to relax (no trying to jump him) might make him feel more like it.
Either that or he's boffing someone on the side!
2006-10-10 07:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...But i think the main problem is this, they have been working so many hours, and coming home, they don't want to continue "working"...they just want to relax.
So what should you do? All the work :) Let him enjoy, and do everything you want to with him, he is your boy toy...tell him all he has to do is relax, and allow himself to be pleasured by you.
Don't be so hard on yourself however, if he can't totally get aroused...he might have work on his mind, after all these long hours. It is a lot of stress...my partner and i fought a lot on this matter, since i like it on a regular basis as well. Just try to understand his situation, and turn him on every which way... he will love it :)
2006-10-10 06:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nothing to do with you love beleive me, if he works all those hours as you say he does, then the guy is wacked out and drained and just want's to drop in his bed and sleep.
He don't mean he doesn't love you, infact it's the opposite, if he works all those hours think of the money he must be earning.
Now if you are still worried if he loves you then think this way, the extra money he has comming in, where does it go? does he provide for you, nice home holidays, gifts etc,or does he go out with his mates a lot and leave you in every night?
My wife and I are glued together, we hardly go outdoors apart from shopping as I am disabled, the only times we are apart and that is Mon/ wed/ Fri for up to 9 hours as I have to go to hospital 30 miles away for dialysis.
Our sex life is non existent due to my health, strokes diabetes, kidney failure etc, etc, but we love each other dearly and we won't go elsewhere as we are always together, where you see me you will see her by my side.
2006-10-10 08:04:10 · answer #6 · answered by DIAMOND_GEEZER_56 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
chill out and don't worry dear it sounds to me as if he is just tired sex is not the bee all and end all in a relationship just back of and let him have some sleep all good things come to those that wait its true you can have to much of a good thing i know its a pain but i thing that woman well most of them have an higher sex drive than men you need to make at least one evening perhaps on the weekend just for you and him stay in get a bottle of wine and cook him a nice steak and get yourself a DVD porno if possible and when he is of at weekend and he is waking up in the morning try rubbing your hands over his body parts i know its pain in the bumb (go to sex shop buy yourself a vibrator ha ha) it will keep you happy when he is tired good luck
2006-10-10 06:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, had the same problem with my man. Had to try a lot of tricks and spend a fortune for the lingerie to get him to want it. I think the reason is stressful job and a lot of hours.. Which I can understand. Try something new with him, and when you finally get him to do it with you don't let him work to hard on you, let him just lay down and relax and you do the whole job. Sooner or later he will be asking you for sex.. good luck :)
2006-10-10 06:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. it is possible for a man to have low sex drive. my husband has low sex drive, but ok, he is 50, not 28. and i think if a man is stressed cos of work he doesn't want any sex. the same as woman
2006-10-10 06:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are working a lot and are tired, it absolutely will impact their libido. Especially if he is in manual labor of some type where he is not just brain tired but physically tired. Maybe some nice back rubs along with an occasional foot massage and some candles would help make him feel comfotable...and hopefully a bit frisky!!
2006-10-10 06:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by earthsagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably a combination of things - tired, low sex drive etc. May also depend on your relationship - how long you've been together etc. So it's difficult to be specific without knowing the facts.
2006-10-10 06:03:28 · answer #11 · answered by Jimmy Mac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋