i try my best to understand it but i cant help to get hurt whenever catch my husband looking to other girl when he is with me...i try to discuss this to him but he said its natural..i know in a way i sounds so immature in this issue but i couldnt help myself to be hurt..im pretty modern woman they say...and i use to be head turner...and now its hard for me to see my husband turn his head to other girl........i dont know how to overcome this...me i couldnt believe that this would be an issue to me in my marriage life....i couldnt imagine to feel this way coz i use to have good self confidence when i was single....pls i need ur smart answer..i do appreciate all ur anwers and concern advice to me...thank u..
2006-10-09 22:33:18 · 16 answers · asked by char 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To tell you the truth, it is natural to look at others. Just use positive self talk. Tell yourself things such as: "They can't have him anyway, because he chose me. or He can look but he can't touch." You just have to try your best to deal with it.
Just remember that it's not like he's ever going to see this particular person again anyway. Besides, I'm sure he is devoted to you. So I don't think you have anything to worry about.
2006-10-09 22:41:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It really is normal for a man to look at other women. Just as normal as a woman looking at another man. Married or not, it's the nature of the beast.
You don't mention a lot of things that could help give you a good answer.
Look at yourself in the mirror. Have you changed? Have you put on any weight? Stopped wearing the makeup you used to wear? Stopped doing your hair like you used to?
If you've done any of the above, then you may want to adjust that and go back to the way you were. But, that's no guarantee that he'll only have eyes for you.
I would actually suggest you start trying to turn a few heads yourself and see what he does when men start looking at you the way he looks at other women.
I would not, however worry too much about him looking as long as he's not touching. Looking is free and you have to admit that women are out to get looked at. Men also like to get looked at and maybe you should start looking too. Just because you're married doesn't mean you can't look. It only means you can't touch.
2006-10-10 05:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound a little self-centered, but my advice is #1 make yourself look nice. Put on some make-up, fix your hair, put on some nice clothes. #2 Think to yourself about how pretty you are. Make him notice you again. If you feel comfortable with yourself, he will most likely start noticing. He will probably still look at other women, but he'll also have some expectations when he gets home to you. If you have kids, try to get someone to watch them once or twice a month and you and hubby have some alone time. This is what i have to do with my husband from time to time. Yes, he does look at other women, but he always comes home to me and treates me like a princess.
2006-10-10 07:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, The way that I look at this matter is that it is natural. Women look at the men that they see, and thinks they look good just as well as the men look at the women in that way. What you should realize & tell your self is that she may have caught his eye but I have him. Just because he is looking at another woman, that does not mean that his Love, Devotion, & Interest for you is gone. It just means that he seen someone that is nice looking. The only time that you really have to worry is if he confronts her and begins to flirt with her right in front of your face. If he has not did that and he is only looking then you should not let it bother you.
2006-10-10 10:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all women feel the same way. a better answer from him would have helped than its natural, PLEASE. He needs to be more conscience of his actions and more concern on how you feel.But we all look and then there are those look to look. Ease yourself into pointing the women out first, nice outfit she has, i love her shoes , look at her,. things like that and if you do really like, go up to her and ask where she got them. it might help you feel better about you and giving you some confidence than the feeling of hurt she is no different and no better. Don't be afraid to talk with other women anywhere there not the enemy
2006-10-10 05:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Throw away the insecurity in yourself,,,(sometimes this is the poison in relationship)..instead try to increase more your self confidence and self esteem..Fix yourself... It doesnt mean that you are married you will not make yourself beautiful..
Yes it hurts for us to see them looking with another woman, but its just looking..It is natural for them to look if there is a beautiful woman.. What important is, when both of you is at home, his attention is all yours, and both of you are happy together..
2006-10-10 07:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person immature,and not considerate is your husband. Next time his head turns you can do one of two things. You can either walk away and make him come chasing you OR you said say in your best outside Loud Voice so that it embarrasses him. IF you are so interested in her why don't you follow her and then walk away. . He will look like a dumbass
2006-10-10 06:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u may dont like this answer but if u do excatly like this may be ur husband atleast will not look girls in front of u.
U should start lookign smart boys and men and discuss with ur husband about that. discuss with him how smart that guy is how good looking he is, his eyes are very sexy and things like that. u will see the dramatic change in him
hope this solve ur issue pls do tell me if it solved ur issue
2006-10-10 05:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Eccentric 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start to look at guys....when out with him.
See the tables turn real quick.
A mature man who is married doesn't act as he does..o.k.
So you really need to let him see, how it feels on the other foot.
Now you may say''Oh! I can't look at other men....well you want to fix this you can''...........But! you have to do it very very carefully.In other words let him catch you just looking....and not listening to him, now and then.
Your a woman! you know what you have to do.
Its also not about you having confidence!!! heck...thats just not nice him looking.o.k. not nice at all.......
2006-10-10 05:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with eccentric... i mean, when i tell my dude i dont like a certain behaviour n he doesnt change, i do something he doesnt like n when he complains, i tell him i also dont like a certain behaviour then we both agree to change...well it works for me.
Get it from me...Its not "normal" as some answers will suggest for your hubby 2 look at other women when u are there. since its a man "thing" to look, tell him to look when u are not there! I mean, i would equally feel intimidated, n it'd just break my self esteem! My dude doesnt d that, if he does, atleast i dont notice so i disagree with all the ppl saying its "normal".
2006-10-10 06:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋