my wife left me for another man and took all furnitue in the house i was left with nothin appart from joint debt witch she has refused to pay.i had to take out a iva.I have been turned down for legal aid but can not afford the divorce canse of the debt.my solitor dosnt seem to want to help me.I had to move away from my home town due to threats as her new boyfriend is involved in crime.
2006-10-09 22:24:52 · 20 answers · asked by adrian c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
stupid. you should have used your joint credit cards to hire the best divorce lawyer money can buy. obviously she did. too late now.
2006-10-09 22:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Find a new solicitor and appeal against the legal aid decision. Alternatively, issue the petition on your own without a lawyer's help - the court fee is £300 but you might qualify for exemption from the fee. If you need help completing the divorce petition (and the statement of arrangements for the children if there are any) then the Citizens Advice Bureau or a Law Centre will help you. They often have local solicitors who come and do an hour and give free advice and help. This is called "pro bono" work which is short for "pro bono publico" or "for the public good" - in other words they don't get paid for it.
Don't give up. You need a divorce. Another thing you could do is take out an ad in the local paper or the London Gazette to state that you won't be responsible for her future debts. Again this will cost though.
2006-10-10 01:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry,the thing with debt even if its in 2 names your still responsible for the whole 100%,if i were you phone the companies involved and see if you can come to an arrangement for now to reduce your payments.Go to another solicitor some are more willing to help than others in situations like this,you have to get a divorce that is the only way you can split this debt and make her responsible for her half.With the new boyfriend speak to the police and report him for harassment this does carry a prison sentence,your solicitor will also be able to get an injunction order with power of arrest attached so if he comes near you or makes threats then once you call the police he is arrested without question.Im sorry you felt you had to move out of your home town,i understand that you may feel vulnerable but the police will help.I'm single with 2 kids and i have had no end of threats and fear from someone and they can also install a security alarm in the house which when pressed goes direct to the police and they are instantly dispatched,you may feel that this is over the top but if its protecting your safety then it isn't,he only has to be arrested a number of times for intimidation or harassment and he will soon get the message you aren't a push over.You could even speak to the citizens advice,but please dont let this go on any longer.good luck
2006-10-10 01:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I would first start off by putting a ad in the paper stating that you are no longer responsible for any debt incured by her then you can go to local court house and pick up do it yourself papers for divorce fill them out as best as you can and you can pay to have her served put in there all the debt and the judge will take care of it when you go to court and household stuff too. Then after divorce get copies of your credit report from the 3 agencies. and start making payments on debt owed one at a time and get it paid off that way sorry to say if she was married to you when debt occured then collection can legally come after you for payment so even if judge says she has to pay so much if she don't or she can take forever doing it well your still better off just paying it and getting on with your life I know it s u c k s but don't dwell on it move on and enjoy your life and be glad it was only 28000 it could of been worse. But I would also change things like life insurance right away and living will too or it all goes into her hands legally until your divorced. We just had a friend who's wife left him a long time ago and kept messing with the divorce just to get more money outta him he moved on got engaged and then he just died in a truck accident and it went to his wife and she was responsible for funeral because they were still married and his soon to be wife was left out in the cold because of all this so make sure you take care of all that important stuff too. And if you are having problems with do it yourself divorce then call lawyers I don't know what state you live in but there are usually a few to chose from and if it is a simple divorce like you don't own houses and all that or have kids then you usually can get a lawyer for about 600. just call around and then make payments and when it is paid then the lawyer will take care of it for you but do it soon before she screws with you more. Good Luck and God Bless
2006-10-09 22:49:56 · answer #4 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can petition her without a solicitor, but then she can just ignore it. My partners x wife has done just that. But you never know, she may want the divorce and go ahead.
Regarding the debt, contact the company and inform them of the split and her address, she is liable for half of it. (again, my partner has done this) And go to the police re the threats from the boyfriend.... (you're me in a male form - been through all of this personally) It doesn't really sove too much but it lets them know that you're not goona just take all this lying down.
Good Luck (if you are like me, then you'll need it)
2006-10-09 22:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by Bodieann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you really have had a bad run of it, will you need to sort yourself out and get yourself another lawyer, its not the end of the world its just a bend and i am sure you can get around it. She needs to be may to pay for her debt, and a good lawyer can see that she does, start again mate, get on with your life, she wasn't worth it, if she did things like that, so hope all goes with, good luck and god bless.
2006-10-11 19:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell I would file for bankruptcy and let her deal with the creditors. Houses and furniture can be replaced, they're only materialistic things and once that bankruptcy cleared, I'd go shopping and include in that purchase a phone with the understanding that she is not to call me when her and that b/f get themselves in trouble.
2006-10-10 01:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's joint debt.......she can refuse all she wants, creditors can and will collect from her as well. Maybe you can turn her criminal new boyfriend over to the authorities.
2006-10-09 22:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur in trouble mate....if u divorce her...does she get to keep half the debt....shouldnt it be law...coz these stupid women just seem to think divorce payout....how bout divorce pay in!!!
all the best mate...and if u need anyone to collect the debt for you, either from her or from her new man, we got a guy... he charges 30% of the debt collection amount...but hell do ur work for you...
2006-10-09 22:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Pat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into a divorce, whats the point are you getting married again?
I know it makes the split final but apart from that?? not much point.
As for the debt, call your debtors and see what they say, explain the situation they may make easier payments for you.
2006-10-09 22:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Gary 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hire a hitman mate.
2006-10-10 02:39:13 · answer #11 · answered by nikkio27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋