Am 26, I live with my parents, brother n cat in surrey and I want to make friends with other young people, have tried going to nightclubs but always I stick out cos I go by myself and alcohol doesn't mix well with me. I don't want to be one of those sad people who go off on cycle rallies and things which are totally lame, so how do I make friends?
2006-10-09 22:16:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Hi Baby
You will make friends i will be your friend al tho i live in ireland and i can't go out for a night with you,,, you can pm me anytime and i will have a chat with you, But i bet you won't need that. Drink will not help you to make friends, just be careful as drink can make you do funny things. I wish i could help you Baby
2006-10-09 22:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know the feeling I was in the same boat, going to nightclubs on your own was quite a courageous thing to do, I don't really drink alcohol either, I could not make friends at work because their were all older then me in their forties and I'm the same age as you, Like others have said find something you like, I liked acting, dancing and learning new languages so I enrolled in local drama group, attending Salsa Classes as well as enrolling on a language course, you get to met people but have fun as well, although I don't have a millions of friends, I have three close friends. Good luck you, I hope this helps.
2006-10-10 00:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like physical attraction a friend is as well someone that attracts you and they are likewise attracted,doesn't mean it's physical, but there is a common interest or goal, something you both relate to. People are more self centered than days of old and more intense to get ahead or survive with the stress placed on daily life and many do not trust any stranger and some seek what they can use you for that suits their needs. A true friend is hard to find. Try your search in locations that attract you naturally, a common goal you and that person would pursue.
2006-10-09 22:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry like everyone else has said nightclubs are not the best place to meet men or friends!
if you dont like alcohol, go to a gym or try a hobby best place is work , why dont you get a job in a pub, i made loads of mates when i worked in a pub althuogh only a few will stick around when you leave!
i have plenty of friends but tend to get walked all over so have a similar problem. i have a few very close friends but not many, i have lots of associates that i go out with but thats about it.
if you cant go out with the people in work even at lunchtime then maybe you should change jobs.
or maybe your brothers friends, do you parents have any mates with daughters or sons the same age? i got forced to be mates with some of my paretns friends kids, but still speak to them now!
2006-10-09 22:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not much for drinking either, I find alcohol changes people to much while they are drinking it. I don't get much of a chance to really know them. So, I don't do much night clubbing myself. A few ways I've found to make friends is, make friends with people I work with. I've gotten involved with a local church, and made some friends their. Another way is to get involved in a special interest group. If there is something you enjoy doing or always wanted to try, then get involved and make friends their. For example, martial arts, potery, joining a health club, joining a gun club, or even take a part time night class, at a local college or university, in a subject that really interests you, then you can make friends with classmates.
2006-10-09 22:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
surrey's actually a pretty friendly place, I lived there til I was 21.
NIghtclubs definitely isnt the way forward for meeting people - and please tell me you dont go to liquid & envy in redhill!!
I think the best way to make friends is through work - I made alot of friends working in a local pub and also working in an office - its alot more sociable than you'd think.
or how about just going to a local pub - people are much more friendly and chatty there than they are in clubs
good luck!
2006-10-09 22:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and alchohol don't mix, trying to make friends in a place where alchohol is rife isn't the best thing.
You must have some mates at work you can go out with so you don't stand out. You could even take your brother with you.
2006-10-09 22:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by mark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are our interest? Try to associate with people that share your same interest. Or, what have you always wanted to try? By trying something new you expose yourself to new people and situations. You may strike up new friendships that way. But, be cautious. Everyone that says they are your friend is not.
2006-10-09 22:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
share your interests, join a club, get out there.
night clubs are not the best place to find friends or partners.
Friend or partners for life will share your day to day interests
You won't be a nerd as long as you are doing what you enjoy, don't try and pretend to be something your not
2006-10-09 22:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by k 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what i feel actually the same as you. People just don't seem to like me. I don't have any mates. am shy but can be out going when i'm confortable. Drink doesn't mix well with me either. chat with me if you like. xx
2006-10-09 22:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by sherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋