pregant and feeling a little down
2006-10-09 22:10:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You are depressed. So down. Read something about being positive in life & try to put whatever you read (positive) into practice. you will start to glow.
2006-10-09 22:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is totaly normal to feel emotional. Your body is going through alot. I dont know if this is your first baby or not but either way the moment you give birth and see your miracle, you will know it was all worth it. You can rest assured that you are already a good Mom by taking the time to resolve your fears. Dont give up. You dont have a scarlet letter on your shirt. If anyone has judged you, they did you a favor in letting you know they are not your friend and they are better off out of your life. Enjoy this time. I know its seems like an eternity, however looking back it goes so fast. Do something nice for you. at least once a month, preferably once a week if you can.
Children are Gods gifts, so feel better knowing that He chose you specifically to be this childs mom.
God never makes mistakes. If you ever need to talk let me know. reiely143@yahoo.com
2006-10-10 05:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by reiley143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy, pregnancy is ment to be a very exciting time but it can bring up very emotional issues as your homones are running wild and feeling a little down is normal and ok. If this marriage thing is a big issue for you maybe you should speak to somebody to help you deal with it so you can get everything off your chest so you can enjoy your pregnancy.
I was very worried about been an unwed mother but I knew the father of my son wasn't the one I wanted to marry so I just didn't go there. I always believed you should have a baby in wedlock and its not like im at all traditional but it was something I always thought would just happen. I ended up having my son, and I was also against having kids to differant fathers but some things are just out of your control. I left the father of my son as he just wasnt the man i though he could have been.
I then had a daughter also outta wedlock and wanted to be engaged to her father before she was born but that never happened. I ended up asking him to marry me when our daughter was 4 months old, we got married in june and fell pregnat the same week of our wedding, This is the first baby born in wedlock for our family but its all the same, I just feel better because I take my wedding vows very seriously and know this is the man for me.
Having a baby is a wonderful joy but you should marry for your own reasons not because your feeling terrible about not been married when your baby is born. Its just a piece of paper so you should make sure your getting married to the right man not just the time you fall pregnant.
You will be very happy with the baby, you dont need to be married.
2006-10-10 05:48:34 · answer #3 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on your baby and realize that millions of women have become mothers without being married. As long as your baby has a loving home, no matter how many people are in it, your child will be blessed. Try to journal all the wonderful feelings and movements of your baby and when he or she's older, he/she will love hearing about your thoughts when you were pregnant. This journal would be priceless to your child. Good luck!
2006-10-10 05:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you are still with your partner or not so I'm not sure if this is going to help: Here where I live (France) almost half of babies are born out of wedlock. It's normal. My 'husband' and I are living together and have no real thoughts of getting married even though we've been engaged for 4yrs now. Half our friends are like us and have no desire to 'tie the knot'. It's just the family who wants us to! My husband says we'll ask our daughter when she's old enough to answer us if she would like to see mommy and daddy married. If she says yes, then we will, and she will have the pleasure to be involved in the wedding!
If you arent still with your partner than I can see why you would be feeling this way, knowing you will have to take care of your baby by yourself. Now's the time to surround yourself with friends and family who can support you emotionally and hopefully they will be there for you when your baby arrives. Even though it seems hard now, when your baby is there in your arms you will only be happy.
2006-10-10 05:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by MaPetiteHippopotame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think like this - there is no stigma attatched to unwed mothers now, so there's one less thing to worry about. When my sister was pregnant and depressed she'd give herself a little treat, like a trip to the salon or a massage. You could also try some self-affirmations and doing some non-baby related things. Hope you get through the down period quickly!
2006-10-10 05:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by chalqua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowdays there is no shame about being pregnant and single!
You have a beautiful baby growing inside your belly that you will get to meet soon....think about your wonderful baby and all the love and attention you will be able to bestow on it!
Once your little one comes into the world you won't have time to worry about anyway, you will be so busy with nappies and feeding, hehe.
Good luck and if you want to talk when you are feeling down you can email me.
2006-10-10 05:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, just because you're not married doesn't make you a bad person. No matter what anyone says, you're having a baby. You're supposed to be happy about it. Its better to have a baby and not be married than to be married and have a baby. Why? Because I was in your shoes once and I got married because I was having a baby. Now I know I shouldn't have let it dictate marriage to me, I would have been better off not being married and just having my baby. My 16 year old "baby" keeps telling me I shouldn't have gotten married just because I was having her because her father turned out to be a 100% j*rk off, a son of a motherless amoeba.
2006-10-10 05:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww hunny, you're going to be a Mum soon. You have been given the most wonderful gift.
Pregnancy can bring out alot of emotional issues. Just focus on that little being, and focus on being the best Mum that you can be, and ask your angels to guide and help you.
Good Luck, and congratulations!
2006-10-10 06:52:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im pregnant and im not married. it didnt feel right. i dont know what your situation is but, to me, pregnancy is a very beautiful thing. i dont know how far along you are but its normal to feel down like this. ive got 2 weeks left and sometmes i feel the same way...but just remmeber the only thing that will matter to you when the baby is born is her/him.try listening to some inspiration music and talking to family. you dont have to be married to enjoy your pregnancy
2006-10-10 05:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋