i am graduating hs in june & i plan on going to college to be a lawyer. work out.he understands that & we be helping me alot. we have been dating for a yr & a half now. we already have everything planned out & it all seems to be looking good. so whats the problem right, i do love him but so many people are telling me to wait? i need some other opions.
2006-10-09 21:47:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hun, if you're questioning it maybe your heart is not fully in the right place. But I was married at 20 and we're doing fantastic, we we're also together 3 years before we were married but If you truly love him and feel you are meant to be, then go for it. Dont worry about what other people say. Do what you feel is right in your heart.
2006-10-10 03:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by a_ybarra03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in such a rush to get married? If it's meant to be, then you could get married tomorrow or in 5 years, so don't rush things unnecessarily.
People change a lot in their college years . . . this is why many are telling you to wait. You'll learn a lot about yourself in the next couple of years. You'll do lots of 'finding yourself.' Don't deny yourself this by getting married so young.
Experience and intuition tell me that getting a law degree will be a lot more complicated for you if you were to get married now. After a few years of marriage, having kids inevitably becomes a topic to be addressed. If you get pregant or have kids while you're still in school, then you most likely won't get the law degree.
What's the problem with just continuing dating?
2006-10-09 23:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait. I got married when I was 17 to a guy that i thought that i knew. Just to find out 7 years later that i didn't this person at all. So here I sit now trying to peice back together my life. Trying to maybe go back to school. Do all the things that I should have been doing when I was 17 INSTEAD of getting married. Being married is not always the answer. I had it set in my mind that nothing would do EXCEPT for me to marry him. Now I wish that I never would have. Don't get me wrong I still love him with all my heart, just dont put your hopes and dreams on the back burner just for a love that you hope is going to work. Keep dating him. Have fun. Enjoy every moment. Just dont settle like I did.
2006-10-09 22:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Simply Complicated 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my hubby at 19 and we were together for almost 2 years before. We are still together, but for you if it is love and you're meant to be together then he'll wait for you. Go to school and get an education. Especially if it's law school. If you marry now you may never get back into school. You'll have every intention of going back, but with the duties for being a wife and then a mother you may never go back. That was the way it was for me. I told my husband that I wish we would have waited for a little while. I still would've married him i just wished i would have finished college first. It is possible to make it last, but you have to work hard at it.
If it's meant to be you'll end up together.
2006-10-10 00:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get married you can kiss College goodbye. What's going to happen is you'll get married, wind up pregnant and due to the pressures of school and the child, you'll drop out 'temporarily' and that 'temporarily' will turn out to be 'permanently'. Oh, you'll PLAN on going back once everything gets settled, but guess what? It won't. You'll get blind-sided seven ways from sunday. It will always be something to prevent you from going. And then you'll realize that your dreams are shattered.
From 18 to 30 should be the best years of your life. There should be College, partying, traveling, fun.
My wife got her Masters in Nuclear Physics. She accomplished this because she had a goal, and didn't let anything come between her and her goal. A pregnancy would've brought that to a screeching halt. Accomplish your goals FIRST, and then get married, etc... etc... You WILL thank yourself later.
2006-10-09 22:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18, you are really not your own person yet. One changes SO much during her twenties, you really need to give yourself a chance to grow and learn. It is best to get yourself some post-secondary education, get a job and find out what it's like to live out on your own as a mature woman. Through all of these new life experiences, you will change. The guy I would have married at 18 is certainly not the man I ended up marrying at 28, very happily.
2006-10-10 01:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first question is.. What do you want? What do you expect in life? and many other personal question you can ask yourself..
After that, ask others for their opioion. They can give you advices and experiences. but just regard them as choices to make. They can give you a million choices to pick from.. but utimately is up to you.
For me, I am 19 and I will be getting my Masters in about one year time. I too have been dating a girl, who will be starting her degree next year.. we both choose to deiecde when to get married once we start working and have a stable job as, we do not really have that cash to support ourselvles and if a baby appears.. the question to continue with our studies is something which can be considered to be a weight.
Really think carefully.. but if I were you? I will finish my masters to be a lawyer.. then get married.. the education steps to be a lawyer is 4 times harder than the best college around...
Cheers! ^^
2006-10-09 22:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by THE ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Marriage is a full time job and so isn't college to be a lawyer. Stay together and get your degree and if you to are still together get married.
18 is not a good age to get married and settle down. You want to be a lawyer then work on that first. If you want to be a wife more then do that.
Don't do both.
2006-10-10 00:37:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you truly in love with him? then it can wait until you are really ready and have settled into college. maybe once college is done, you can get married. you shouldn't take on the responsibility of a marriage when you have studies and school to focus on.
but it is your choice. think it over. give it some time. it is a very big deal,and it is your life, so consider everything.
2006-10-09 23:33:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married at 18? You're crazy if you even think that was a good idea. You get a life first before you throw it away or lose it in a marriage because women lose their identities in marriage - I strongly suggest you go to college and then a job and then see the world. Marriage isn't the answer to your problems. Its the problem in itself.
2006-10-09 21:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋