Is it completly silly to want to be a young mother? I don't mean like sixteen or seventeen, but like 19 - early twenties? Or would waiting until being older be better? I know my mother had me when she was in her thirties, and I always wanted to have a child younger.
2006-10-09 21:40:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
NO!
You are ready when you are ready not when other people think you should be ready.
I have a great advantage over my friends. I am 27 and my youngest is 6. I will under 40 when my kids graduate high school. My friends will be over 50!
It's so much fun with kids at this age. I can relate better to what they are going through and know that I will be here for them whenever they need me. I can keep up with them and have no problems being silly with them as well!
This is true the opposite way as well, but I think its a personal choice!
2006-10-09 21:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good to want to be a young mother but I also think early twenties is a time you are truly discovering who you are and what kind of person you want to be and having a child too early can interrupt those plans. I waited until I was 26 to get pregnant and had my first child right before my 27th birthday. My daughter is 21 months and I plan on getting pregnant next year so my kids will be 3 years apart. I feel that I am young mom but I am also glad I waited because I was able to date my husband for 5 1/2 years before we got married (which was right after I graduated from college). We got to travel for a couple of years before starting our family and I have no regrets. I love being a mom. Just really, truly think it through and make sure you've done enough things that you've wanted to do before settling down so you don't have any regrets. Good luck!
2006-10-09 22:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not, I'm 20 and I'm trying to have a baby, everyone is different, so no matter what else anyone says to you its your decision and only you no when you are ready and no one else can change your decision as you have probably made up your mind. I think young mothers are just as good as the older ones as everyone has to start somewhere and everyone grows into the role, sometimes it may take a bit but eventually you will be a mother of a beautiful child, weather you take anyone's advice here or not. Good luck and happy parenting... let me no how you get on
2006-10-09 22:19:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No thats not silly at all! I'm 19 and I am also ready to have children! You are the only one who truly knows that you are ready! If you are 100% sure that you want a baby, and you are mature and responsible enough then go for it! You have to think about the baby too! Are the circumstances right? Well good luck!
2006-10-10 00:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by brittanyj05cm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok if you are ready to. Waiting till thirties, is not advisable anyhow, its better to have the first baby at a younger age, that way you know you can have one, some of us wait longer, if you try earlier, you at leat get t oknow if there are any problems that need to be taken care of, if you are late, you end up first wasting time to remove the problems, if any and then go on to have the baby, thus delaying your purpose, so havethe first baby and then plan your second
2006-10-09 21:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by aditigsamai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone is different... but I couldn't see myself as having a child at the age of 19 or 20. I do not think I would have had the maturity to cope with having a child at that age - they are a huge responsibility - much bigger than anyone can ever imagine.
When you have a child, it not only impacts on your life - it will impact on everyone's lives around you: your partner, your parents, your partner's parents, your siblings, friends etc. I had a friend who had her baby at the age of 21. He is now 6 years old and he is such a dear little boy and I love him very much... but it took a HUGE amount of adjusting on my part to get used to the fact that our lives had changed forever. I don't think my friend ever really knew how hard it was for me to accept her little boy (at first) but I did manage to get past it and now I wouldn't have it any other way.
Everyone's decision to have a baby is a personal one. Preferably, you should be in a stable, committed relationship (maybe even married) but above all, make sure that you have plenty of support around you.
Be true to yourself :)
2006-10-10 00:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Bliss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that having a baby is a personal decision. I am 23, recently married, and my husband and I are ready to have a baby. However, he has a great job, and we have a wonderful family to support us, too. I also have been around babies and children my whole life and am perfectly comfortable with the idea of a newborn in the house. Everyone is different and has had different experiences in their lives that makes who they are. No one else can judge you unless they truly know you. You know you are ready when you are. Its as simple as that.
2006-10-10 03:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by MrsN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is silly at all. As long as you are in a loving and stable relationship. Financially, you also need to be able to support your child. Good Luck and I hope you make the right decision for you.
2006-10-09 22:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by Slk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,biological age is a conventional yardstick for many things, from movies rating to alcohol consumption. However, if your emotional and spiritual maturity is beyond your "peers", hey who is to say what you should or shouldnt do. Your background, your training, your family support, your philosophy of life should be taken into consideration. Have faith.
2006-10-10 00:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think its silly. i too want to become a young mother but im considering the future consequences. it's hard to raise a child.
2006-10-09 21:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by _nakahhidit_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋