Okay, first off I want to say this boy is living with me because our moms are together(lesbians). He is 13 and I am 16. They have been living with us for a year now. When they first moved in, him and I had to share my queen sized bed for 3 months before we moved into the bigger room and moved to seperate beds. We now live in a different house with our own rooms, but I just want to say that we have become good friends because of sharing a room for 6 months. I also want to point out that I am NOT gay. Dont steriotype the situation because of my mom's sexuality. Here is what he is doing, example: We are in my room and I am laying on my side watching him play a video game and out of nowhere he decides to lay against me while playing. I'm not talking about just scooting back and useing me as a prop-up, he laid his body against my stomach/chest and rested his face against my chest while playing.
2006-10-09 21:32:15 · 13 answers · asked by Blaine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I thought this was pretty weird, but I figured that he just felt really comfortable with me and I tried to take it as a compliment. Well about 10 minutes later he sits back up and plays for around another 10 - 15 minutes and then decides to lay back down. This time he just laid back and rested his head in the place between my bellybutton and manhood. NONE of my friends from school has EVER done anything like this and would probably freak if I told them about what he did. I wouldn't even bother to show concern and ask this question here if I knew for a fact that he isn't gay, but when you grow up with a gay mother, hang out with nothing but girls at school, not being into sports, and is a very sensitive person, it makes you wonder. I would REALLY appreciate some MATURE responses to this question and some good advice. Thanks!
2006-10-09 21:32:29 · update #1
Since you know each other well, and have lived together, and are close.....You should be able to speak with him openly and honestly. That's the only way you will find your answers.
Dont leave yourself to guessing.
2006-10-09 21:37:19 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I dont know if he is gay or not but I would not want to think so. If this guy was gay, Im sure he by now he would made a move on u. You stayed together sharing the same bed for 6 months and nothing happened. i think he is just very comfortable with you.
Maybe if you see him making more of these moves and its making u very uncomfortable, just talk to him about it. Tell him u r not comfortable with it.
2006-10-10 04:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he absolutely feels something for you. But this is because you are the closest man to him. he is 99% gay or is on his way to being gay.
If you try to talk to him about it, he will probably deny it. But you should make him feel that you are disturbed of his behaviours, maybe not by words but with your behaviours.For example, dont let him rest his head close to your manhood. And my advice is that, help him make a girlfriend. that would help a lot. He might feel like gay now but that doesnt mean that he will in the future.
good luck....
2006-10-10 04:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Remzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this situation is making you uncomfortable so you need to say something to him nicely about it. He's not your brother so for him to lay on you is not exceptable. And it is best to put a stop to it now. Say something like I'm nottrying to be mean but I am not comfortable with you laying on me so could you please not do that. And then make sure you are out of range in the future so you can avoid it. His sexual preference shouldn't make a difference the fact that it makes you uncomfortable is enough. You should not have to be uncomfortable in your own room. If you can't resolve it yourself maybe you should talk to your mom about it. She might be able to say something to him or give you some advice on what to do.
2006-10-10 05:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by MereBear 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Given his age of 13, i think its really too early stage to confirm about his sexuality. It is still a growing phase for him and for now he might just feel more comfortable with guys and with you. If you are really not comfortable with him lying on you etc then guess it will be good to set him straight, have a talk with him but do it tactfully ya.
2006-10-10 05:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by whenuthinkboutme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he's either gay, bisexual, or sexually confused. If a girl did that to you, clearly you'd be wondering if she was into you, and clearly that would be her way of getting your attention physically. If he mysteriously rested his hand in your crotch too would you have to ask? This is normal behavior for someone who is not straight.
Also, I think him being sensitive and not into sports and all that stuff you mentioned has nothing to do with whether he is gay or not. What proves his gayness is his actual actions, nothing more. And clearly his actions are obvious.
2006-10-10 04:34:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal behavior if he's done "homosexual" acts this once, but then if he does it again and again (count, say,: three times) assume he is
Look at his face whenever he does it, or try to have down pat how he looked at ye before he did that, and while he did that. Eyes are windowsto the soul.
And I think he is
2006-10-10 04:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by Lordimpalerthe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every big thing start small. While you have a free will to decide how your life should go, i think you should take a look at Romans 1 in the Bible.
2006-10-10 05:09:20 · answer #8 · answered by thomas a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this all happens when some people living togather a brotherly love and faith started to devolope between them it does not mean that he is gay its just he likes you as a friend and belives you more than any one that why he feel that he is allowed to rest on your chest. one more thing he just a kid he may be takeing you as his brother,
"Thinking negitive means happening negitive"
2006-10-10 05:06:28 · answer #9 · answered by sunny k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely gay
2006-10-10 04:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by stienbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋