I'm getting a divorce soon but we haven't split yet. We've put the house up for sale and when it sells we're going our separate ways...I get the kids, he get's the dog! This really cute guy has asked me out and I don't know if I should tell him that I'm married waiting on a divorce or just don't tell him anything! I don't want to scare him off!!!
2006-10-09 21:23:08 · 64 answers · asked by prettywoman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think the dog has got the lucky end of the deal.............
2006-10-09 21:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
NO, just for all the good times you spent with your husband, for all the love you gave him and he gave you.
Don't you think you are both going through a really difficult time where your children will need to much attention to show they are not at fault and don't blame themselves?
You need to have some respect for your ex partner, so you can help your children through this completely and give yourself time to think about what you want from the rest of your life.
Getting involved will only complicate things in your head at a time where you need a clearer head than ever in your life.
If your ex found out he could change tact and this could become a real battle in the courts, he might think the guys been on the scene while you were still together.
From mans point of view, i would be devastated that my wife thought so little of our marraige that she can't even wait a few weeks without getting into bed with another man.
Your children should be your 100% priority and nothing else, tell this guy to come back in 3 months and if he's right for you he will understand.
2006-10-09 21:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is based on honesty, so tell him you are in the process of a divorce and let him decide if it bothers him. I have been in the process of a divorce for 2 and a half years, that's a long time to be lonely, so personally I do not see anything wrong with dating while your divorce is in progress.
2006-10-09 21:40:47 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth, lying about it will only make you uptight if you go out. If he's really interested he'll wait until you are divorced, which by the way is the right thing to do. On a serious note, don't introduce him to the kids until you are sure it's going somewhere.
2006-10-10 02:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Level with him. Don't go out with him until the divorce is granted, or your hubby might have grounds to pursue custody.
You're still married. If your cute guy is more than just a cute guy and is really interested he'll wait for you. If he splits when he finds out you've got kids you don't want anything to do with him anyway.
2006-10-09 21:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Warren D 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Does he know you're married ? Is he married ? He may be in a similar situation himself, so say yes and go out with him, live for the moment and work out the divorce afterwards. You never know, he may be the best thing that's ever happened to you, but you won't know if you don't try !
I'm a guy in a similar situation, except I know the woman I really want is married, probably very happy and will probably never be with me. I messed up and missed my chance, don't do the same and regret it for ever more !
2006-10-10 10:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Timbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First think of the legal repercussions that a date could cause you in court during your divorce. If you soon to be ex wants to he could use it to damage you in court. Divorces can get ugly, Been there, Done that. Second it's only fair to the guy if you tell him you are getting a divorce, let's face it if he finds out later he will probably get more mad at you for not being honest. If he's a good guy he'll understand that divorce takes time and that he has to be patient.
2006-10-09 21:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by MereBear 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
depending on Ur age,if u have time 2 waist and want 2 have a little fun, u don't have 2 tell him but if u don't have time 2 waist, tell him Ur separated and explain 2 him that.on till u get thing straight with Ur divorce y'all can only b friend and that will give u some time to see what kind of person he is b4 u bring him around Ur kids
2006-10-09 21:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by breab360 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can tell the guy that you are getting divorced, but if you and your husband haven't split yet then don't go out with him. If he can't accept that then he's not for you.
2006-10-10 00:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by kajunmommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting a divorce but you HAVEN'T SPLIT UP YET!!! Have you ever heard of the expression "putting the cart before the horse", or more simply put, "a.s.s-backwards"? Either YOU GET OUT OF THE HOUSE or EX-HUBBIE-TO-BE gets out of the house, THEN you start thinking about dating, otherwise this is just WAY TOO WIERD! If nothing else, THINK ABOUT THE KIDS!!!
2006-10-09 21:31:18 · answer #10 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. Has the divorce actually been filed? Are you sure every thing is quite as cozy as you describe? Are you sure hubby is thinking the way you are? Why are you still living together if getting a divorce?
Don't do it now. Divorce is messy enough even when everything is agreed on. You are going to make it worse.
2006-10-09 21:27:47 · answer #11 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋