hmm. so, if somebody would tell you that you are an interesting person, what exactly do they mean by that? does interesting connotes a "real" person? someone being true to herself/himself?
2006-10-09 21:19:35 · 17 answers · asked by miya-chan 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
it's difficult for anyone to be interested in us if we don't develop the refined skill of being interested in others. but interest, no matter how genuine, can only go so far. what sustains interest beyond mere effort is substance. beyond substance, honesty and sincerity about who we are, how we communicate what we believe in or how we view others.
this is the potent mix, the "X" factor, the "ooomph", that draws us to other people, often unconsciously, without knowing why...we just are interested. and our very interest in others is what draws them to us, as well. it works both ways. isn't it a truism that the only person more boring than one without substance and sincerity is the one who is interested only in him/herself?
wide reading, awareness of others and their sentiments, sensitivity and consideration, patient listening ... all these give us the option to be honest and responsible receptacles of others' viewpoints, insights, emotions and, hopefully, wisdom. we learn by being willng recipients even as we teach by being responsible about what we receive. as we grow in and with the wisdom of others, we mature into unselfish contributors.
we can either be informative when necessary, or be able to ask educated questions when not knowledgable enough about a topic; we learn when to ask the right questions and keep the conversation juices going; at the very least, we indicate, by our interest in what the other person is saying, the he/she is interesting and worth being with...only then do we become equally interesting to be with, as well.
we can also learn the fine art of sincere and involved listening in its various stages of involvement: (1) interested, if uncritical, listening; (2) sympathetic feedbacking with intelligent/educated questions or responses, visual or auditory; (3) critical but constructive listening, with hints of playing a devil's advocate, that either lets the other person see other viewpoints, or reconsider objectively the soundness of his/her views; (4) counselling / mentoring listening when asked to be.
hope this helps.
2006-10-09 22:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by saberlingo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be an interesting person you need to have interests.
When someone says that you are interesting its because they find things about you interesting.
Everyone is a real person and being true to ones self has nothing to do with being interesting.
What some might find interesting others may not. So to be interesting to a group or to a person you must first know more or less what thier interests are
2006-10-09 23:17:06 · answer #2 · answered by hersheynrey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, an interesting person may not be thought of that way to everyone. And, everyone is going to be found interesting to someone in their lives. Most likely, the interesting person IS being true to themselves, but it's not necessarily so. I've met a few "interesting" people who ended up being BS'ers.
2006-10-09 21:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by schaianne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a good listener, having a working knowledge of current events and having the ability to think outside the box. Also, having some hobbies, activities, etc.... helps. It's being true to yourself in the ultimate sense. People who aren't true are shallow and boring.
2006-10-09 21:28:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A person who is very involved in the situation, is able to respond to the situation (response-ability, responsibility taking), more alive(not lost in his own world of past, future, desires, priorities etc), and truly loving (love as his quality of being, not just a love directed to an object, subject etc) !
2006-10-09 21:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One who is willing to listen and take an interest in what you have to say and do.
A straight up confident person who does not need to lie and brag or show off. nor pride of vanity.
one who fits in with the group-yet group mold around that person
but still not the take charge do it my way--trust and dependable.
there when you need them--the anchor.
2006-10-09 21:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by cork 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your trying too hard to find a deeper meaning here. It just means that to the person that made that comment; you stand out to them in a way particular to yourself. It could be personal charisma, your manner of speaking, the way that you do ordinary daily things could just be stylized enough to them that you pull their focus to it.
2006-10-09 21:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Pundit Bandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be considered an interesting person, you would have to have one person find you interesting, for whatever reason. when people call me interesting it's usually right after i have done something or said something that sent them into deep contemplation and they still found themselves baffled. or if i do something or say something that is completely contrary to the image they have of me. that is intentional.
2006-10-10 00:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by ridin512deep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has a different view on what you call interesting you could be interesting to one person and a complete bore to another so its just a matter of oppinion
2006-10-09 21:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by JOHN jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about things others find interesting.
2006-10-09 21:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋