He's hit me 3 times and calls me ugly and fat all the time. Most of the time he's really nice. He just has a tempur problem. There's deffinetly potential, with therapy but, there's a cute guy that flirts with me really bad and I'm tempted to just let my mouth do all the talking... if you know what i mean! HELP ME!
2006-10-09 21:14:04 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how bad do you think you will get beat if you cheat on him and he finds out. first of all you are not free to have a relationship. until you clear up this matter with your husband. leave him he will keep on doing it and then one day you might not make it through. good luck
2006-10-09 23:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,you should NOT cheat-if your hubby has a temper now,stop a minute and think of what it will be like when he finds out(AND HE WILL!)that you are cheating-BIG PROBLEM!!You should exploit the potential of therapy first,with the addition of anger management for him,if that doesn't work though,i suggest you file for a divorce-THEN do as you please with your mouth or whatever it is you want to use-otherwise you will probably have nothing left to flirt with!Cheating is NOT the way forwards,it is a considerable step back-even below the abuse your hubby gives you.You deserve better,but you must tread carefully.
2006-10-10 05:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
get out from the marriage first before you even allow yourself to meet another man.cos should you see the other party,and your husband were to find out he would go bersek and hit you more.by then he could put all the blame on you for provoking him .you'll end up in a win-lose situation. that is he wins and you lose,.
unless you really wanna save your marriage and think that there's definitely room for improvement.then just drop the whole revenge thingy and go take him(your hubby) with you and seek professional help.
Seeking help or in other words a mediator, will help alot if the 2 of you cant solve and sort matters on your own.
whatever actions you choose to take,just think it through and make a wise choice.
good luck
2006-10-10 04:27:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I support you, BUT cheating on a husband is always the wrong thing to do. You're going to make yourself look bad if you cheat. If you want find someone else to start a new relationship, divorce with him first, but before that, talk to him first. Tell him that you don't like the way he's treating you. Maybe give him one more chance (If you think he's worth it). See if he changes.
2006-10-10 04:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by No-one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall for this temptation. You will only complicate your life and bring sorrow to many.
Stay focused on your husband and your marriage. Enjoy what you have, instead of destroying it. You said yourself that he is really nice most of the time. That's a lot more than many wives have.
2006-10-10 12:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do that!!! Than he'll just hate you and hits you more and leave you and you may never find another husband again!!!!!!!!!try talking to him and if he contenious doing that than go for it!!!! cheat on him and if he asked you why did you do that and you answer Ive already talked to you about this cuz you don't respect me and i have waited so long to do this because you always hit me and stuff! And if he hits you after that you just leave him and never come back!!!!!!!!!the most drastic measure!
2006-10-10 04:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by *ILoveCATS* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why'd you marry him? Clearly you were blind to something if you didn't notice any of his devastating behaviors before you got married to him. You made the mistake of marrying him, so fix that mistake and divorce him. Why cheat? Thats weak, and cowardice. Divorce him, THEN be with who you want. If you cheat, you might be jumping into yet another problem your blind to seeing again. And you may have TWO men beating on you.
2006-10-10 04:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You dont need to cheat on him because he is not treating you right. You need to figure out if you are going to stay married to him and go to therapy or if you are going to get out of this dangerous relationship, but dont drag anybody else into your mess.
2006-10-10 10:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrwongs dont ever make a right. You need to start to pray for him. Of course you need to get your walk right with God too.
Keep company with godly people. It will help you hold on.
2006-10-10 04:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by thomas a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threes no excuse for abuse. If your both willing to get counseling together & work it out fine,if not get a devorce.Running arround on hem only degrades you & makes matters worse.
2006-10-10 04:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ellen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋