Help please! I'm 18 years old nd my dad gives me a 9pm curfew. Its unfair sometimes I think about leaving home. I always try to reason with him and I never get to speak for myself
2006-10-09 21:02:25 · 38 answers · asked by C O 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Ah to be 18 again. You couldn't pay me enuf money in the world. I'm only 26 too.
Are you still in school? If so you don't need to be out later than 9 on a school night.
Have you been untrustworthy in your parents eyes to take away that freedom of later curfew? Try to earn it back.
I don't suggest moving out because of curfew. Moving out is a lot different from home. There's no one to tell you to go to bed, clean your room, no one to tell you to do this and do that. You are your own boss! You also have to pay rent, electricity, water, gas (if seperate). You have to buy your own food and cook it yourself and clean up after your self (no one else will be around to do it for you) You need to buy laundry detergent and other laundry supplies to do your laundy. Oh and if you don't have a washer and dryer then you need to go to the laundry mat. And gas and insurance for your car to go to work. and a little extra for emergencies that go along with moving out. (car repair, plumber bill, etc). If you are in school then will your after school job cover these items? I've tried it, it doesn't work. you can't pay all the bills in a month. You are 18 and an adult. But please think things thru before you decide you don't like a rule and want to move out.
2006-10-09 23:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Damn you're 18 and you still have a curfew! Maybe you should move out! When I was 17 my curfew was 10:00 pm on weekdays and on weekends it was 12:00 am But now my mother doesn't care and I'm also 18! Girl that is too early for a curfew! Actually at that time I'm getting ready to go out for my night on the town! Good luck with that!
2006-10-09 21:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and discuss your curfew. Negotiate with him. I lived at home during college until I was 24. I never had a curfew but would be kind enough to tell my parents when I was going to be home really late and where I was at so they wouldn't worry. Even though I was an adult, they still worried about me because I'm their child. A reasonable curfew if you are still in high school would be 10:00 p.m. on weekdays and midnight on weekends. You don't need to be out any later than that at your age. You might want to mention this curfew situation to a relative who could possibly help you out by talking to your dad with you. Also, if you get good grades and show you are responsible that should help your case.
2006-10-09 22:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i understand where your coming from. yes it is unfair that you 18 and you have a 9pm curfew. i think that your dad is scare because he doesn't want you to get hurt . he is only trying to protect you. he is doing wrong because went you decided to leave home the real world will hurt. your old enough to make your own decisions because the older you get the more responsibilities you have you should tell him this because he was a 18 once. just try to talk to him and don't be scare to speak for yourself. sometimes you have tell it like it is.
2006-10-09 21:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by *Cherrytop* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, are you 18 and in high school or 18 and grown? Cuz if you are 18 and in high school, you will just have to suck it up and deal with it. Maybe not say anything for awhile and when he is in a good mood, bring it up and point out the positives in your life. Now the real question is, have you done anything to deserve a 9p.m. curfew? HMMMMMM
2006-10-10 02:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by syldia803 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iam a parent and my honest answer is you are considerd a "legal Adult" and you have a 9:00 cerfew? The only reason I can think why your parents are doing that is do you have a job? are you in college? if so your cerfew shouldnt be that early if you are attempting to do the right things with your life, now if your 18 not working not going to school unfortunatly its there house and there rules
2006-10-10 02:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by Christina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While being 18 may make you an adult legally, you're not an adult until you are self-sufficient.
Would you rather follow the house rules, or have no house?
I think it's completely unreasonable, but there's nothing you can do right now, except move out. That's the end goal...
2006-10-10 02:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its absolutely fair to have a 9 PM curfew - heck i say make it 8 PM.
What can you do after 9 PM, that you cant do before that?
If sex is what you are after - why not do it during the day?
If it is night clubs: Why waste your time in a smoky,dark place. Study instead!
2006-10-10 00:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its extrememly unfair, although its true that he has the right to give you a curfew because you live with him he should choose not to excercise that right. By that i mean he should not give you any curfew at all. from the sounds of things your only hope is to move out.
2006-10-09 22:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your dad, listen to him; although, it is kinda weird that an 18 year old has a curfew. Move out if you want to.
2006-10-09 21:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋