It's really getting me down - especially as she is very quick to criticize my kids publically. I try not to go there anymore when the child is around but had to yesterday. He is argumentative and opinionated, besides scathing and downright obnoxious. I left after five minutes when it became clear (once again) that his mother spends her time humouring his rudeness. He's 12. She's a good friend and I value her friendship but her kid ....
2006-10-09 21:00:17 · 10 answers · asked by True Blue Brit 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I should have said - she used to criticize my kids until I told her I would correct them when necessary - and I do! However, she has told me to correct her son but I don't like doing that. I think it is rude and also, when one day I had to do it she didn't back me up. BTW - she sends her son to the same school my girls go to because she has confidence in their good behaviour and therefore thinks I'm doing something right!
2006-10-09 21:11:44 · update #1
try and meet ur friend when the the kids are at school , dont let this brat get u down ..i hate cheeky children , i can confidently say that as i know can i take my kids anywhere and know they will never embarrass me by being rude . At home is a different story lol ..
2006-10-09 21:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start criticizing her kid if its good for the goose its good for the gander! Most parents dont realize that there kids are doing this as we see it all the time and dont think anything of it, it's only an outsider (like yourself) that can see what the parents cant, try to stay friends with her but try to see her when the kids not around.
2006-10-10 04:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think thie mother might regret just humouring this type of arrogance when he is 17 and giving her a hard time, perhaps physically! Perhaps she is already afraid of him..you can't parent someone elses child, and it sounds as if she wouldn't listen anyway, personally I woudl distance myself from this 'friendship', as it sounds as if there is some communication difficulties anyway and that won't improve, and becasue you are bound to want to say something soon enough and it will aviod ugliness later on.
2006-10-10 05:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She told you to correct her son, so why are you here asking questions? Correct her bloody son! And make it clear to her that you need her to back you up when you do it. A child reflects on the mother, remember.
2006-10-10 04:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question yourself - do you REALLY think she is a good friend? You mention that she is quick to criticise your kids - is that what 'good friends' really do? Why do you need this sort of friend?
2006-10-10 04:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by youdancin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the kid that if he can't be respectful when he speaks to you then he is not to speak to you at all. If you don't take it from your own kids, don't take it from anyone elses!
2006-10-10 05:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by libbyft 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would adress the boy directly. next time hes rude just say to him "that was very rude! you shouldnt speak to me like that!" at that point his mother will probably intervene,giving you an opening to speak to her about it....good luck
2006-10-10 04:10:25 · answer #7 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we can't tell others what to do or in your case how to bring up other's kids. He'll grow up horrible.
2006-10-10 04:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by Say It Like You Mean It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her straight. the kid could influence yours. you wouldn't want your child to behave like that.
2006-10-10 04:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by cocpony 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stand back for the Fireworks when he gets to being a teenager..................like i often say on here, bad parenting !!!!
2006-10-10 04:03:46 · answer #10 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋