We have been together for two years, i know he loves me, but he wont make any commitment like move in with me. he is 21, i am twenty. both in full time jobs, can afford it, but he insists we can't. what can i do to stop feeling so jealous of the time he spends with his female friends. when my rational mind KNOWS he would never cheat? HELP
2006-10-09 20:59:26 · 17 answers · asked by Emma B 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
He doesn't want to move in? Mm. Here's what you could do: coolly suggest that, seeing as he's not prepared to take the next logical step to show his committment to you and move in together, the two of you take a break from the relationship, as his reluctance to do this is making you question the whole thing. Give him time to mull this over. If he really does love you, he'll hear what you're saying ... which is that you love him, but you love yourself just that little bit more, and this tends to get them by the short and curlies as they want to number one in their woman's life.
2006-10-09 21:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think its normal to be jealous, women always compare themselves to other women we just cant help it. If its any consolation I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years and still cant drag him up the isle (he's 28) we do live together though, I think that blokes fight anything that means growing up. I moved out on my own within a week he had followed me. It will work out in the end things always do, good luck :o)
2006-10-09 21:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by bez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not a rational thought, thats why it can cause so many problems. Moving intogether is unlikely to solve the matter, it may actually make it worse.
Try to get councelling, its the only way to overcome the jealously (which probably has its causes back in your childhood), you need to tackle this or it could ruin your relationship, and the next one, and the next......
2006-10-09 21:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by huggz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would he feel the same way if you have some real cute boys as your friend, wouldn't he?
it's normal to feel this way but too much thinking about this might let you to feel that he might cheat on you someday. it's unhealthy to think this way. like someone said in here. he already chose you, why worry? and it's true that you both are quite young. you've got plenty of time to see some good men.
2006-10-09 21:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal to feel any feeling. your guy has issues too by the sounds of it. you are still young and it takes at least two years to know someone. he may not be right for you. you may prefer a guy that spends time with other men but if they have female friends they must be trying to understand us? i think i would feel a bit insecure about this but then i'd tell myself it's me he's chosen. you will always feel insecure about him even if you live together and it coul drive you crazy. if you are like this in all relationships it's you that needs to help yourself. try EFT www.eft-talk.com if it's only with him you feel like that then it's just not right for you.
2006-10-09 21:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are jealous because of pretty girls that are friends only then either, 1. you have low self-esteem, 2. your relationship has lack of trust-which usually ends up bad.
3. it can be your gut feeling telling you that something really is wrong.
2006-10-09 21:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can a person ever REALLY know that their significant other wont cheat? 20 and 21 are young, moving is a big commitment, hes probably scared.
2006-10-09 21:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by lndsuedelvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt feel jelous in the first place if you are sure of him not cheating. that just shows that you have an insecurity about yourself that you arent fully confident about who you are. once you know who you are and what it is you deserve you would not wonder whether him being with those girls is right or not. if he is in love with you no matter how good looking they are he will still find you more good looking. something tells me you dont think you are? which i dont think is the case.
2006-10-09 21:13:29 · answer #8 · answered by angel_fire3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course that is normal.You have feelings for him,if u hadn't u wouldn't be jealous.Why rush to move in with him?You are both too young for such responsibility.Imagine paying bills, and other stuff like washing his clothes.You will get fight over money who to pay and who will clean.You are young and free.Enjoy,there's platy of time to move in together.You'll get bored of each other too soon.Just don't show him you are jealous.Be cool and act mature.
2006-10-09 21:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by bilezlatko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, yes. Just think to youself that you got yourself one heck of a guy... and be proud instead of jealous. You are probably a looker, too....one of his many good looking friends, but more special. isn't that a wonderful thing? Be happy.
2006-10-09 21:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋