my husband and i have always said no kids. just for the simple fact we love to travel. now he comes to me and says now i want one. i am scared don't know anything about what to do and what to have checked before we go through with it. He just wants to get it done and then just wait and see i want to plan somewhat PLEASE HELP!!!!!!
2006-10-09 20:43:25 · 8 answers · asked by red_neckgirl_77 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
yeah i want a child. I was just told by my husband that he wanted to wait 10 years. sure it upset me but i said ok. so you see it was a huge shock to me to hear he wants one now but he said he is not getting any younger.
2006-10-09 20:57:56 · update #1
Well let me start by saying, no one can completely prepare themselves for the profound experience of becoming a first-time mom or dad, but here are some steps to take before trying to concieve:
Talk about when you want the baby to be born if that matters for things like taking time off from work, not wanting to be hugely pregnant in the middle of summer etc, and try to concieve after concidering these things.
Get a pregnancy book that covers the few months before conception like "Your pregnancy companion"
http://www.amazon.com/Your-Pregnancy-Companion-Month-During/dp/0671685570/sr=1-5/qid=1160466639/ref=sr_1_5/002-2202987-0700046?ie=UTF8&s=books
Or "Before you concieve"
http://www.amazon.com/Before-You-Conceive-Complete-Pregnancy/dp/0553347187/sr=1-1/qid=1160467057/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-2202987-0700046?ie=UTF8&s=books
I liked this one, it helped me get really healthy before I got pregnant.
Also remember you can travel with your little one. When it's your own child, it's totally different from that screaming kid you heard on the plane. Watching your child discover the world around them is deeply rewarding. Check out this book, it was fun reading, and made us really confident about foreign travel with our then 8 month old, we had a blast.
http://www.amazon.com/Go-Baby-Stress-Getting-Across/dp/B000FA4US8/sr=1-1/qid=1160467369/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-2202987-0700046?ie=UTF8&s=books
This one had good detail, lists and tips:
http://www.amazon.com/Traveling-Baby-Concise-Guide-Parents/dp/0974723908/sr=1-3/qid=1160467428/ref=pd_bbs_3/002-2202987-0700046?ie=UTF8&s=books
2006-10-09 21:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by e_gladman@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone said, getting healthy is important. Just an idea: Maybe you can babysit someone else's child for a full day with your husband. Hopefully a baby you are close to and love such as your sister's or a close friend's so you have some type of bond. Do realize that if this baby drives you nuts, having your own child is completely different because the bond you have with your child is amazing and can't be described in words. My daughter is 21 months old. My husband and I both wanted kids and we planned her birth. I have no regrets at all. I want to get pregnant next Spring with my second. You could also see a family counselor to help you get prepared. Good luck!
2006-10-10 05:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you have been off of birth control pills for an appropriate time and visit your gynecologist for a physical. They will recommend prenatal vitamins, healthful eating and exercise. I would also use the time to visit friends with children or take your own nieces and nephews on a few trips to places like malls or the zoo to get a feel for what it's like to have kids around. There will be considerably less time for your husband after the baby arrives. Your attention will be totally focused on the baby. Does your husband realize that and is he willing to give it up?
Make sure you talk about all that before you get pregnant.
I was with my husband for 7 years before we had our kids. We got all our travel out of the way and now won't be able to go anywhere for another 2 years at least since my youngest in now 4 1/2 months old.
Best of luck.
2006-10-10 04:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor and get a full physical. Start taking a pregnancy multi-vitamin every day or as much as the bottle states. Make sure you are eating healthy and drinking plenty of water. That is the physical side of it, now onto the emotional. Firstly do YOU want to have a baby? Make sur you are ready by visiting family with young children and maybe even taking out a child for the day to get a feel of motherhood. Make sure a baby fits into your life smoothly also or it will cause big problems later. Speak to people who have had children about the costs and time spent on children, with your husband so he gets a feel as well.
2006-10-10 03:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by kip 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make shore you want a baby because you cant put it back ,then go to a doctor and have a pap and all normal health checks take folic acid ,that's the most important supplement and eat healthy and enjoy you sex life .
2006-10-10 03:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait a minute. You say HE wants a kid, but do YOU wnat one? After all, YOU'RE the one who has to do al the "work"!
2006-10-10 03:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go for it, if you are both ready, do it, if not think on it a while, but you sound to be ready, good luck
2006-10-10 05:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it. It looks like fun but it wares off real fast. Enjoy your relationship while you have it.
2006-10-10 03:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by Nepolean Dynamite 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋