I am married and I have just returned from Iraq. My wife has a Yahoo 360 website and it doesnt state that she is married. She has alot of guys on here friends list, but I am not on it. She says that when they IM her they can look at her profile and it will tell them that she is married, but if they just search profiles through Yahoo 360, they would never know that she is married. Should I be concerned about this. She says that they are just her friends.
2006-10-09 20:38:14 · 11 answers · asked by soldierman69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course, nobody on here can offer any guarantees; but if her profile says she's married I wouldn't necessarily think she's up to anything iffy. She has probably had to find something to keep busy with while you've been gone (and so glad you're back, by the way, even though I don't know you); and she probably hasn't cared about who is a guy and who is a girl. I know I'm on here, giving my version of an answer to people (guys) I don't know and will never know.
I imagine they are just friends. Maybe it has just kind of become her "own thing" that she has. I wouldn't be surprised if after you've been back a while she starts to get away from the computer more. People deal with situation by "getting into a mode", and when the situation changes it takes a little time for them to gradually get out of the "mode" that worked for them before.
She may even have used the computer to give her a chance to get her thoughts of some very scary things over the time you've been gone. I've heard that it does take time for couples to get themselves back on some kind of footing after having one away in the service.
Best wishes. I can't help but think you don't have to worry. (I can't imagine what all your family members have had to go through with you over there, so overlook any of them if they do anything that seems a little wacko to you :):) )
2006-10-09 21:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is reasonable to be concerned because it shows that you care about her and your relationship. At the same time, however, don't go overboard at the risk of causing a fight. I would approach her in an open and honest manner, and ask her to do the same. Express your needs. If you feel it is important for you to be listed on her friends list and for her to be listed as "married," then let her know that. if this is important to you, it should be addressed, and not left to turn into a greater issue. She is your wife, so hopefully she will be open with you and work with you towards a compromise.
take care!
2006-10-10 03:44:26 · answer #2 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already are concerned, now what is the solution. Do you trust your wife? If the answer is yes then there is no problem if the answer is no, then you need to find a way to get that trust or move on.
2006-10-10 03:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry. Beleif and mutual trust are the foundatation stone of any relationship. You should believe your wife. Everybody explore internet these days, it is mostly harmless. If anybody wants to have illicit relations outside their marriage, he/she need not make any email id. And as far as outsiders are concerned they are not bothered by marital status of a women.
2006-10-10 03:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by arooon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. That is not right for a women who is married. It is misleading to others and shows she needs some harmless attention . But never the less its wrong. She most likely is telling you the truth about them being her friends; Now that her husband is home, she wont have the time. to continue with that. But give her a break to adjust to the change of having you home and having to change her daily routine
I Thank You for your service to our Country. WELCOME HOME!
2006-10-10 04:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand it being something for her to do while you were deployed. But now that your home, I no longer see the reason for her to want the page. I would let her know how you feel about it, and hope that she's lovingly understanding.....
Otherwise, you may have reason to be concerned.
I'm glad you're home safely!
2006-10-10 03:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmmmmmmm abit of a hard one.... to be honest i would be paraniod if this was me,. I would be sneaky and investigate more like try and read the messages, or i would sign up an account up and start talking to her to see what is going on.
2006-10-10 03:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by chicken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a bit suspicious. I certainly would not want my signifigant other talking to members of the opposite sex online.
Keep an eye on it. If she is cheating I would divorce her immediately...
2006-10-10 03:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by jrsygrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife seems to enjoy some fun in your absence/presence.
just if you can't make her understand your views.
just leave her, and have your own way
2006-10-10 03:43:16 · answer #9 · answered by RASUNA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very strange. I would keep a close eye on that one.
If you are an American soldier, thanks and love ya bro.
2006-10-10 03:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋