Any suggestions to make him understand how I feel.
2006-10-09 20:35:06 · 15 answers · asked by honey 2 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
i'm due to get married next year but i can't seem to allow myself to be really excited and happy about that the anxiety is taking over
im on tablets but it will be a few weeks before they take effect
2006-10-09 21:13:44 · update #1
do you take anything for your anxiety, if not talk to your doctor. Their are good medications to control that "out of control" feeling.
Guys in general do not understand women. I have been married almost 24 years to the same man. I too have anxiety, do you think he understands when I want to run out of the house? Of course not. Sometimes it's best not to discuss your medical issues with them. Discuss it with your doctor get it under control, take your medication as directed, and smile at him that's all he
needs to know. Sometimes "our" issues are "our" issues and best unsaid. I suggest if your not medicated, get medicated, and you want even know you have anxiety and wont need to discuss it.
2006-10-09 20:42:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rose L 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I think it's partly a guy thing. I'm married and sometimes I feel like my husband still doesn't get it! Have you tried to sit down with him and explain how you're feeling? I know that it's easy to suggest, but it's hard to do. Why are you feeling so bad - what are you feelign anxious about? Perhaps your boyfriend feels that the situation is a little "heavy" for him? One thing you can do is to talk with a counselor. You can get the load off and they can help give you suggestions on how to manage your anxiety. I'm not saying that youre dumping on the BF - but he just may feel like it. You can dump all you want on a counselor because it's their job and they are trained to help you. Just my suggestion...then maybe you and your BF can work on this together?
2006-10-10 03:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by natureutt78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In general people who have not experienced any form of anxiety do not understand at all (male or female) although females are generally kinder sensitive souls who will listen and try and understand more, i suggest you change your bf for a more caring person cos if he cannot care now how will he care if you are married?
2006-10-10 03:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by just-dave 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mine's the same but no-one can really understand how you feel. men certainly don't think like women so talking to him like he's a female friend will not help. they don't seem to live in their heads as much as we do. I'm on anti-depressants and waiting for the effects to really help. in the meantime i'm worried and anxious and my bf can't get his head round being supportive emotionally for a coupl of weeks. having said that he's there for me and he's sick himself. he just doesn't say the right things sometimes. try to reach out to female friends and relations for your emotional needs, Also remember that worry is a waste of energy!
2006-10-10 03:57:04 · answer #4 · answered by minerva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him about his problems first, start with "how was your day?"
After this he should be more willing to discuss your problems, heck he might even ask about them.
It is much more like whining/nagging if one partner is complaining about their problem all the time and not considering the problems of the other.
This might not be the case here but if so then give it a try, good luck.
2006-10-10 03:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by Mike 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club..alot of guys dont like to hear their gals whining,thats what they call it. I even lost a bf because of my anxiety. I suggest getting some help from a proffesional so you wont be so down.
2006-10-10 03:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by yahooaddict 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hard to tell you because i dont know how your relationship works etc but if he isn't listening in the slightest there is a problem. However my g/f has troubles and no matter how i listen and try to help "im dont understand", but i know im a good listener and can help in most cases - but i cant fix everything. nor can your boyfriend, your problems start with you and can only end with you, your man is only there to support you and help you
2006-10-10 03:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Gravy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you see a psychiatrist? It would probably be best if you saw your psychiatrist about it and the next appointment you have after talking this over with your psychiatrist bring your b/f to your session and when the psychiatrist talks about it your b/f will better understand.
2006-10-10 03:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by mom_in_love 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you anxious and feeling bad? You never know, he might actually be the cause of it. Talk to a professional, whatever is triggering these bad feelings might not be as bad as you think.
2006-10-10 03:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm male, so I'll try and tell you.
Try sitting down with him and actually asking him how he thinks you feel. If he's wrong tell him how you do feel. If he's still completely ignorant, I really can't help there.
2006-10-10 03:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by pippynip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋