I was at a friend's birthday party. We were playing a game called truth or dare (hopefully you all know how it works). This guy chose 'dare', and he was asked to kiss a girl. That girl turned out to be me.
But I was sort of running away from him (I was hiding behind my best friend). He saw that I was trying to hide from him. I was looking at him and he looked sad and embarrased.
I didn't want to let him kiss me because we've only just met, and I didn't want to be kissed by someone I don't even know. In the end my friend let him kissed her.
But afterwards (now), I feel so guilty for rejecting him and for making him looked like an idiot. I want to tell him that I'm sorry, but I'm afraid and embarrased. I don't even have his phone number or e-mail.
Should I ask my friend for his number to call him and apologise? Anyone have better suggestions?
2006-10-09 20:07:47 · 30 answers · asked by No-one 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
P.S. He's HOT!!! And he's nice too.
2006-10-09 20:25:55 · update #1
you do like him don't you? or at least, you don't hate him...
i think a simple explanation is a polite act to what has happen. You need not go into details or whine too much about it, coz you do have your own justifiable reasons for not accepting the kiss. just a simple friendly gesture will do the job. If he's a nice guy he would gladly take it and let things go.
2006-10-09 20:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by meow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's natural to not want to kiss someone you don't know. This was a game, but still, you felt uncomfortable. That's totally understandable. You should ask your friend for his email or phone number (phone's a better way). If your friend has his contact info, give him a call and let him know you didnt mean to make him feel bad. Explain your situation to him about how you just didn't want to kiss someone you didnt know. I'm sure he'll understand. Guys usually don't hold emotions or grudges towards others for long....not like the way us girls do.
How long ago was this incident BTW? Because if it happened tonight, then it's safe to still call him and apologize (better then email) but if this happened a week ago, just leave it alone until you see him again another time around because it just became stale.....if you know what I mean? A week is too long to wait. Do it ASAP if it was just recent. Hope this makes sense!
2006-10-10 03:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Asia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never be forced into doing something like that, because that's something personal and its an intrusion into your private space. The only thing that seemed rude was your reaction lol. You didn't have to hide behind your friend like he was going to attack you or something. Wouldn't you feel embarrassed if you were going to kiss someone and they hid?
To find a way to contact him? I definitely don't see the problem. It'd be a way to attempt to set things right, especially if you gave him the wrong idea. Either that or figure out ways to deal with awkward situations in the future, where you can say 'no' without making someone else feel bad. But remember, it's usually good to be straightforward! Then no one can have misconceptions of the message you're trying to convey.
2006-10-10 03:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by thedaybear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Playing truth or dare is a kids game that is more than likely over rated . The only reason guys like it is to kiss girls or get them to take off something. There are no rules or reason why you need to follow something if your not confrontable with it . It's just a game ....not the law .....and I would say you had every right not to kiss him if you didn't want to . Respect yourself and don't make your self out to be loose or easy ..... People will respect you more for saying No than yes ......
2006-10-10 03:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by marshoberg55 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you shouldn't have played the game..everyone knows the game turns bad. So maybe try and apologize, but you shouldn't feel bad for not wanting to kiss him. Altho a little kiss never hurt anyone lol. I'm sure the dudes fine.
2006-10-10 03:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by saraxxlynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell u 1 thing..guys always find d best excuse to kiss.there is nothin wrong in rejecting his kiss...it would have been better if u dint run nd HIDE! u could have just told him straight on his face.u might not fell comfortable and he should understnd that.well ud better apologise for RUNNING and do try to explain y u did dat.matbe things would work out.but dtay away 4m him if he forces u too too much.i dont he would b d right guy 4 u.all d best nd do things logically.b in ur limits.tke cre.
2006-10-10 03:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is a stranger, you might just let it go, unless you really feel bad. Calling and explaining that you were just uncomfortable might make him feel better, but also there's the outside chance that you might make him think you like him. I say this because it could be that you were the person picked because he has a crush on you and his friends knew it - so any attention on your part could make him think you like him. Just be clear what the situation was. But it is nice of you to be concerned for his feelings.
2006-10-10 03:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a game and you should have let him kiss you. Now the event is over and do not feel sorry about it as this would lead to more complication and entanglements. Ignoring the whole incident is the best solution as of now.
2006-10-10 03:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, call him. Even better, at the next party, walk over to him and KISS HIM in front of everyone.
You have probably hurt him and destroyed his pride a bit. A kiss can mean the world or nothing. Be brave and know that this one means nothing.
2006-10-10 03:12:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shoudlnt feel bad about not kissing him. If you cant get over the fact that you embarrased him give him a call and tell him what you wrote on here.
2006-10-10 03:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by rainbowbright 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋