I'm dealing with a custody battle and the stepmother of my kids is interfering with our communication and correspondence. She has completely taken over, and instead of letting my kids write back to me, she has been sending typed "updates" and events calenders for things she has planned for my kids to do. She also keeps sending pictures of herself to me, and when I send stamped envelopes for the kids to write back to me with, she uses them to instead send snotty letters to me. I am having a hard time dealing with this. Any suggestions, or does anyone think they know why she would be acting this way?
2006-10-09 19:57:43 · 4 answers · asked by giggitygiggitygiggitygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds as if you're dealing with someone with less maturity than your kids. Talk to your lawyer. He (or she) will have the best knowledge of what you can and cannot do to protect your relationship with your kids.
You say you're in a custody battle. Keep these snotty letters and pictures. Send copies to your lawyer. These letters can be used in your favor in court.
Also, in the future, whenever you send anything over there, whether to your kids or your ex, make a copy of it all. This way, she has nothing to bite you in the butt with.
2006-10-09 20:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's possible to get into counseling for the children and yourself, then she and your ex spouse can be brought in as well. A counselor will tell her that discipline is up to the father and if she has issues then she needs to talk to him about them privately and he needs to be the one to hand down the discipline. Her only job is to be good to the children, help provide for them and attempt to build a good relationship with them. It's very difficult, I know. I've been there myself. If she continues the "wrong" behaviors after counseling then they can be documented. Best wishes to you.
2006-10-10 03:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest talking to a lawyer with family law as a primary service. Natural parents should have a right to direct communication with children, and mail should be considered direct communication.
2006-10-10 03:03:23 · answer #3 · answered by maytee h 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
get the ball back in your court and demand their father speak to you personally.
2006-10-10 03:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋