What do you do when someone you love says they love you, but they're actions speak the opposite? I've asked her if she loves me, she says yes and she also says she's IN love with me... but they way she acts is like she doesn't care the least bit about me. I've even talked to her about it and all she can say is, "I don't know what you want me to say." Tell me what you think... and if you are with someone and love them, What are some ways that you show them?
2006-10-09 19:39:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I went thru the same thing before... we arent together anymore. But one thing is, check yourself... are you showing her you love her thru ur actions? If you are, than maybe shes not the type of girl for you. Everyone has different needs and obviously you arent feelin the love and you need someone who shows you love.
2006-10-09 19:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Elley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You simply have to go with what she says and not what she does. Actions get misread constantly. She may just feel smothered. Back off a little- just a little- and give her some time to herself to just be herself and make sure you tell her that you aren't abandoning her - that you just want to give her some space to just be her. If she says no then don't but it sounds like it might be a good idea. Maybe give her a day at the spa or the movies and money for lunch or something.
2006-10-10 03:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I respect my husband and we talk everything even though with sense and non sense story..If hes asking my opinion, I will tell honestly what is on my mind..and that is how partners are.. its like a team...you both analyze, realize, decide and solved everything..
Better ask yourself, if you did something wrong, usually women say that because there is some incident that happen before when you ask her and you never listened.. So she gets tired of you answering to your question, which u never listened or you never pay attention with.
Women are different..I just believe on treat your women the way you want to be treated..A good communication plays a big role in a relationship.. You shouldnt stop talking..
Talk to her..
2006-10-10 02:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is scared about show she feels. Give her some space. I mean go out with other people, um don't go to her house to hang out, nothing for a little while. Just hang out with the boys or other girls if you want for about 2 weeks. then call her and see if she wants to do something. Let her know what you are doing tell why. Fear dose things to people and makes them act a little crazy sometimes. If she cares she will come around.
2006-10-10 03:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by tasha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could depend on how long U have been together, because some people are shy or just dont know how to exspress themselves, So just give it some time and continue to show her how U feel about her and maybe she will be able to open UP.....
2006-10-10 09:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
showing them that you enjoy spending time and planing what we will do for a weekend. send cards that say i miss you or thinking about you to his place of work. leaving posted notes around the house, join him in the shower. give a body message before bed. text him messages, write a I LOVE YOU in my lipstick on the bathroom mirror,meet in the afternoon for a quickie.
Things like that.
2006-10-10 03:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are some people who are not in touch with their feelings... she may just be that type of person. i know a couple people like that. i dont know her.you gotta decide if shes that type of person..and if she is.. u cant really change her.. but u can ask her to be more lovey dovey u know
2006-10-10 02:44:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speek louder then words.
2006-10-10 03:00:54 · answer #8 · answered by rainbowbright 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try to put more effort from your side - I know this sounds unfair but try it. Spoil her with special dinners... and maybe she will come round.
2006-10-10 02:41:57 · answer #9 · answered by riettebotha2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's shy.. maybe she is not used to share her feellings.. talk to her..
2006-10-10 06:40:35 · answer #10 · answered by ❀swe3tie✿ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋