The cycle of a child predator?Child we are helping, saving... today will be the next generation monster?

Question

This seems to be a odd way of helping, we hate the predator, we help the child victim, we are horrified about the morbid things that have happened to innoscent children.Then 10, 12, 20 years later this is the person we want to kill for doing the same thing. This reminds me of a movie based on a true story where a man was abused in every way, from birth. Turns into a monster killer who is being put to death, and the people who were helping and hurting for him or now wanting him dea because he is a immoral. We save them and then we kill them or a percentage of them? True? We hurt for them as children, we punish them as sick adults
Tonite they are discussing an abandoned baby, baby Jordon. How sad for this baby. Who will baby Jordon be in in 12, 15, 20 years?Will he become a man we will want to literally burn at the stake for some hideous act?Many of the perverts, killers, socially sick were baby Jordans, little innoscent mloested children.
This is maddness. This is reality?

Answer 1

So are you saying we shouldn't help the children? What a bunch of crap. There are a lot of people in the world who were molested as children that are fine adults. You need to take your head out of your posterior for a while and join the real world. If they decide to turn into monsters, it's the choice they make. And it is a choice.

Answer 2

Having had severely abused relatives, Both sexually and physically, that were removed from the threat and abuse, I can honestly tell you that with the rest of the families love and support the kids all turned out fine. It took time and support, but it can be done. Not that they ever lose the memory or pain but they learn to go on past. All are married but one. All have kids that are doing good. Sometimes it is a choice. They feel that having gone through it they would never want anyone else subjected to it. You have to try to help. If in the future a victim turns into the assailant we still have to remove them from society. They still know right from wrong and we still have to protect as many of the next generation of kids as we can. "Most" abandoned, abused children grow up to be fine adults.

Answer 3

I hear you however it is only a small percentage of abused children who go on to be abusers themselves. We need more research on the field to be able to narrow down to a certainty which abused children will become abusers. Once we have that information we can go forward and deal with the cycle of violence.

However we must be wary about placing all people in the same box, many survivors of horrendous crimes and abuse are healthy and well adjusted adults.

Answer 4

Society wallows in it's own filth. We are as the dog that returns to it's own vomit. On the outside we are pretty, painted, marble Tombs but on the inside we are dead bones. We say we are helping but we are only helping ourselves. To truly help someone else, predator or preyed upon we would have to so completely give of ourselves and we are neither willing or able to do so. This is why Jesus came into the world to save mankind from mankind. Only from the flawless perfection of heaven itself could the answer to our dilemna be provided. No matter what the crime or the wickedness we all are lambs led to the slaughter in need of a savior.

Answer 5

Well it depends ... I was abused as a kid, but I got over it and now I am an advocate for victims whenever I have the chance....


Yet, I do know many, if not most, of todays victims are tomorrows abusers!

HOWEVER, luckily for me my abuser was a 13 y.o. neighbor girl, and I was only a 4y.o. boy? Sometimes the younger you are the less you effected ... however I still deal with sexual addiction and I usually like having sex with older women (older than myself), yet I never think about little kids!

Answer 6

Jackie, please read the books written by Dave Pelzer (A Child Called It). Most child victims do not grow up to be cold-blooded killers, molesters, and rapists like their perpetrators. Do you realize how many people have been victimized in their lives? Look around. Ask around.

Please don't re-victimize the victims of this world by spreading around this misinformed notion of yours into our collective consciousness. I'm sorry for whatever experience you have had to endure that led you to this way of thinking. But there are other truths that you should know about that will surely ease your troubled mind and soul. Please pursue those other more positive truths and continue to try to help those poor little children that need you.

Answer 7

I beg to differ. I think it is the abused children whose abuse goes unreported that MAY continue the cycle. Those whose abuse is reported and handled appropriately can and often do recover and the cycle is ended there.
Unfortunately there are probably many unreported cases. I know that now, we are teaching our children to tell. That doesn't mean they all find the strength to do so.
I don't know what the percentage is of youth, whose abuse was uncovered, who do become abusers themselves. I'd be interested seeing some research on those figures though

Answer 8

Well nothing is certain so who knows what would become of a child in that situation. But one thing is certain, by doing nothing for that child we only increase the odds that they will one day become a child molestor.